Resilience is a great concept. As mothers, we must master this art. Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from illness, change, or misfortune. Resilience is buoyancy. Think of all the things this covers. A few examples might be our families get sick, we mend them back to health, our spouses have a hard day at work and is grouchy with us, or we have another curve ball thrown at us from work or life in general. It, also, means the properties of a material, which enable it to resume its original shape or position after being pulled, stretched, creased or compressed.

How many times a day do we feel, pulled, stretched, or compressed in some way, either emotionally, physically, mentality, or even spiritually? When we live in a place of reaction, we tend to feel this much more often than most. After really studying the evaluations of women and the effects this lifestyle had on our bodies and marriages, I saw a consistent theme. Women tend to have some of the same warning signs when they are being pulled past our natural resilience points: depletion, strain on relationships, taking things personally, higher emotions and chaos. Resilience can come to mean having the ability to discern and focus on thoughts, relationships, actions, and internal beliefs that nourish and replenish the mind, body, and spirit with joy, love, enchantment, and elegance. It is the state of having continuous experiences throughout the day that renew and re-energize you. Resilience, also, means ending the day with energy and gratitude for the lessons learned and the way in which we learned them. Sometimes we learn them the easy way, and sometimes we are just plain stubborn learning them the hard way. Either way, resilience means having compassion for self in that moment.

There are a few of the simple things that bring me back to a state of resilience