All men over the age of 30 experience impotence as least once in their lifetime. Estimating the numbers is difficult because less than 2 men in 10 seek treatment for impotence problems. The conclusion is impotence is a very common problem in men.

The big problem is it seems that for a large number of men, their ability to get an erection and have sex is viewed as an integral part of their masculinity and potency and can be debilitating to his mental health.

First reaction of a man dealing with impotence is to make excuses or avoid sexual situations with his partner in an effort to forget about the condition. This tendency can often leave the partner feeling unloved, unattractive and unwanted. By consequence, the man's failure to communicate his condition may contribute to frustration, stress or depression in his partner, or even lead to relation failure.

Encountering this problem, men must think first that this is a very common male problem. He is neither alone nor unusual. There are over hundred million partners of impotent men!

Then, next step is to communicate with the partner. Couples who can talk openly about this condition have a great advantage. Sharing fears and worries is a first step toward feeling better.

Woman's emotions regarding the impotence of her partner can be complex as well. But she must not forget that the male partner is going through similar strong emotions.

It's generally known that about 85-90 percent of erectile problems are caused by an existing medical condition. Woman's help and understanding of situation is very important. In a spirit of friendly cooperation, she must offer her support in solving partner's problem going together to see a doctor.

Valerian D is a freelance writer specialized in health issues affecting men such as erectile dysfunction impotence.