Who Should Relocate In A Long Distance Relationship?
My Dear Lover,
Soon or later, you and your beloved will have to take the
decision of who should move, because it is very hard to live
apart.
Moving will change your life drastically, you should what you
and beloved really wants from life, you need to communicate,
communicate and communicate until you arrive to a very clear
understanding about your expectations, It is your future.
Here are some questions to help you make the decision.
- Will you have to "give up" of your domestic animals?
Does your beloved love having cats, dogs, birds, etc. at
home?
- Any of you already have children? How well will they accept
living together, now as a new family? There are good schools for
them in the new place? They like the new place? How about their
friends, they accept being apart from them? Can they keep their
current activities, like sport, etc. in the new place?
- Are you moving far away from your family? If you are a kind
of person that is very close to your family, it will be very
hard not. to be with them so often. Maybe your parents are "old"
and need your assistance. You have the right to build your life,
your happiness, your love, but I think it isn't fair to leave
your parents alone most of the time, when they most need your
help. And if you already have children, can they live far away
from their actual family? They are willing to have a new
family?
- If you are divorced and your ex lives near to you, will he
accept your new mate? After all he comes from "nowhere", and
almost from one day to another, he is already living with you.Of
course you can't let your ex be the main reason for you to live
your life, where you want, and with who you want, but if your ex
is a kind of person that don't accept that you have a new mate,
you need to be prepared to deal with that.
- Can you live in the new area, possibly, for the rest of your
life? Do you like the weather? The culture? If you are an urban
lover and will move to a rural area, can you live with that, or
will you miss the urban live too much?If you are a kind of
person that can adapt very easy to new environments, this is no
problem at all, but if you are not, and decide to move, you will
need all the help, understanding and support from your beloved,
for the more "difficult" phases, be aware that he knows that. Do
you really know the new area, or you have been there before,
only for a couple of weeks in romantic holidays? Try to know
better the new area, if you can spend more time there and not.
only when both of you are in holidays, before you move
forever.
- God forgive me, but if things don't go well between you, and
you decide to you should end your relation, after you move, will
you come back to your old home, or will you live in the new
area? Can you live there, without the support of your family and
old friends? It will be a very difficult time for you.
Well, with all these questions, it might seem to you, that this
is a very difficult decision to make.It is a big
decision that will change your life forever, you need to be very
clear about your expectations.
But my most important advice to you is to listen to your
heart. True love is so precious and can overcome any difficult.
Don't measure the distance, measure the Love, Maria
Madeira. http://www.distancelovin
ghelp.com