Aim for the Future ... but don't get ulcers waiting for it to
happen!
It is always good to aim for a vision, to pursue a goal, and
make your dreams come true. However, there's a difference
between chasing your dreams and anticipating the outcome of the
dreams. The main idea behind dreaming and pursuing your goals is
to provide a sense of direction with positive action. One
mistake many people make is that, once they define a vision and
set goals, they just sit there and wait for something to happen.
They wait for what "will" happen instead of enjoying and
participating in what "is" happening. To make fulfilling, don't
anticipate the future ... live in the present and work to attain
your dreams of the future.
--- It'll be great, when ... ---
When will it be great? When the great event happens? When the
vision shows itself? The problem is that, when this great
expectation comes about, you'll be so frustrated from waiting
that you'll miss it. On the other hand, by simply sitting there
and waiting, the event may never happen because you didn't do
anything to make it happen. Basically, you were busy waiting
instead of busy doing.
One of the big mistakes that people make is that they live in a
world that doesn't yet exist. They make lofty goals and have big
dreams then they place all of their feelings, emotions, and
being into what they "think" it will be like when their dreams
come true. In fact, the dream may never come true, or it will
change. Perhaps, you will realize that the dream you were
chasing is not what you wanted in the first place. However,
you'll never know if you just sit there and wait.
As you wait for this spectacular moment to occur, you're missing
out on everything that's happening now. You're missing out on
life. This is where the frustration comes into the picture. You
know you'll feel different in the future, but at this moment,
you feel rotten, lost, or disenchanted. Part of the reason is
because you're betting on something that may never happen. The
other reason is that you're not actively doing anything to
achieve the goals that sit in your future.
--- Aim for it, don't anticipate it! ---
When you feel that your life is not moving the way you want it
to, you need to reevaluate your life and set a target. This
target is the vision of where you want to be, or see yourself,
in the future. Once you know your vision, you have to establish
a mission, or a plan of attack, to reach your vision. Your goals
are then the steps along the mission and the actions that you
must execute to perform the mission successfully.
Over the years, I've found that a vision in the future is a
moving target. You can't expect to anticipate something that
only exists as a dream of what you would like to be. The future
changes based on your experiences, your knowledge, and your
changing beliefs and desires. As it changes, holding on to
something you once wanted only holds you back. You have to
execute your goals to reach your vision and be ready to change
your path and your mission when your vision changes.
--- What's next? ---
I once wrote this screenplay called "The Chamber." It was about
a teleportation project gone awry. One of the strange side
effects of the teleportation process was that the character
ended up in the future, by several seconds, because of a
temporal shift that occurred. When someone traveled via the
chamber, they were, literally alone, in the future, for a period
of time until the rest of the world caught up to them. Sadly, if
you aim into the future and wait for something to happen, then
you too are living in a non-existent time with nothing and no
one else around.
Take the time to smell the roses. Slow it down a bit and take
stock in what is going on now and not what "might" happen in the
future. You're missing out on the world that you're creating if
you're too anxious to be in a world that doesn't yet exist. This
causes frustration, loss of direction and, in some cases, loss
of desire. Realize that once you set yourself up and begin your
mission to your vision, the idea is to enjoy the journey. Feel
the fulfillment of accomplishing your goals along the way. When
your life is directed at an objective, you're better able to
control those things that would otherwise affect you. Aim for
the future. Don't anticipate the possibilities as they're not
yet here.