Is Perfectionism Slowing You Down?
Have you ever found yourself doing the least important
things on your to-do list, while procrastinating on the very
things that matter most? It's easy to understand why we
procrastinate on things that are unpleasant, expensive, or time
consuming. (That's why there's a line at the post office on
April 15th at midnight.) But why do we procrastinate on doing
the things that will yield truly beneficial results in areas we
feel passionate about? I read an interesting comment recently
that said, "Inside every procrastinator lives a perfectionist."
Have you ever delayed starting a project because you were
waiting for conditions to be "just right," so you could complete
it? If so, you might be a perfectionist. But have you ever put
it off so long that you had to submit work you were unhappy
with, or worse yet -actually missed the deadline altogether?
Then you may very well be a "procrastinating perfectionist."
This is the double bind: by setting up the unreasonable standard
of perfection, the procrastinating perfectionist has sabotaged
themselves so that work conditions and subsequent results end up
being below average.
So what does one who is stuck in this self-defeating
pattern do? The long-term solution is to do a little
deep-digging to see what your relationship is to perfection,
control, and self-sabotage. Ok, so there's a life-time worth of
work! What about right now? Sometimes it's easier to work with a
perceived problem rather than try to eradicate it. Can your
inner-perfectionist be mobilized to overcome your
inner-procrastinator? Here are a few tips to psyche yourself out
of a perfectionist slow down.
First, consider that no self-respecting perfectionist can
stand the shame of missing a deadline and use this to your
advantage. Give yourself extra credit for timeliness. Deduct
points for procrastination.
Just start! If you are a true dyed-in-the-wool
perfectionist, you don't need conditions to be as perfect as you
would like. Once you get going, your natural excellence will
kick in. Remember, that your perfectionism is largely
subjective. Don't complicate your projects with unnecessary
details. Focus on accomplishing the "must do's" first. Then add
the extras that you love so much.
And lastly, give up the idea that you must do everything
on your own. If you don't want to give up control by delegating
some of the work, that's fine. But do get an accountability
partner that you report your progress to on a regular basis.