Whether you know him by Eros or Cupid, this son of the Goddess Venus aka Aphrodite, has long been associated with Valentines Day. Cupid the cheeky cherub loves to play and delights in aiming his pointed arrows at unsuspecting victims. When his arrow pierces your heart- you will fall madly and deeply in love.

This Valentine, I felt the effects of his love tipped dart and it has been the most glorious feeling in the world. The most incredible, sexy, intelligent, funny, loving man on the face of this earth fell in love with me and I with him. There is no explaining this phenomenon except to say that Cupid must have played a role.

Now you might be saying to yourself, “well great for her but what does this have to do with me?

If it can happen to me, it can happen to you and here's how.

If you are bathed in blue instead of red today, then chances are you are alone. Am I right? Now,I am sorry to hear that but it is a temporary situation only and one that can be rectified quite quickly. Do you want to know how? Okay then work with me here.

This is going to sound like an odd request but I want you to relish in the fact that you are alone. Oh ya, just great, thanks for the tip Frank. Its Valentines Day and everyone has a honey or a date and they are getting candy and gifts and you want me to be happy that I am alone? What gives? Hear me out ok; just think about this for a second. When is two lonelier than one?

When you are with someone you don't want to be with and “alone is preferable to that in my book”, wouldn't you agree?

Of course you would love to be with the one but were Seals and Crofts really right when they said if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with?

That may be ok for a one night stand but I doubt that you would want this to be the platform for your life long mate.

So why did I tell you to relish in the fact that you are alone instead of receiving chocolates and gifts and having an adoring man look into your eyes and say sweet nothings to you? Why?Because right this minute or in a minute from now once I tell you what to do, you will be in the process of attracting the most wonderful, fantastic, amazing mate that you have ever imagined. In fact, they are on their way to meet you right now. They like you are seeking their match but there is one thing that stands in the way for both of you and that is a big thing called recognition.

Ah there you go being crazy again Frankie…what do you mean by that? Play with me here please.

How many times have you daydreamed about your perfect mate? How descriptive and precise did you get? I want you to imagine this phantom lover again but in great detail..

That's right. I mean Stick your head out from under those covers, throw a robe on and grab a piece of paper. NOW!

I want you to draw two columns. The first column is for all the things you DON'