First of all stop browsing for such subjects as motivation, self improvement, success and all such similar stuff. If you are browsing for some academic purpose it is OK .But if the purpose of your search is to transform yourself, stop it right now. You need not search for that answer on the internet or in any book, or not even with a motivational expert. The answer is with in you, and you know very well as to what is wrong and right with you.

You already must have thought several times for several hours over a period of time, and you know how to change yourself. You also know if a change is necessary at all, will the change bring in more happiness, will it add value to me in the society, will it give me mental peace etc. Don