Building Better Family Relationships
At these times when both men and women work for a living, small
children are often left at home with a babysitter or at a
daycare center while older ones spend the whole day at school.
Most of the time, parents have just enough time to spare to just
tuck in their kids at night. They sometimes do not even have
enough time to talk about their individual lives let alone spend
a day of fun together. But building good relationships with
one's children does not really have to be spent the whole day.
Little conversations, little gestures of comfort, little things
that you do everyday whether they be for an hour or for just a
few minutes are enough especially when done with sincerity and
commitment to strengthening and building the bonds that you have
with your children. Here are some of the ways of building better
relationships with your children.
Set time for small talks Whether the talks are done inside the
car on the way to school or to the day care center; or while
being in the comforts of the dinner table; these are good
beginnings for building better relationship with children. These
are the times when they talk about their life in school or some
incident in the play area. Parents can learn a lot from these
small conversations. Often, it is in these conversations when
parents find out incidents of bullying, difficulties in school
and young crushes.
Give a hug There is so much good in giving a child a hug.
According to research, touch therapy is very effective in
building family relationships especially in building bonds
between parents and child. It is a good way in expressing your
love and concern for kids. In addition to hugs, small kisses and
pats on the back are also crucial in building relationships.
Leave messages Another effective way of building good
relationships with your children is maintaining constant
communication in whatever form you can do this. Parents with
mobile phones for instance can keep track of their older
children through mobile phones. Messages left in a family
bulletin board or posted on the refrigerator are also great ways
of maintaining your presence in your child's life.
Be with them Despite the busy schedules, make an effort to be
there when you do have the time. A once-a-month family getaway
can do wonders to building closer family ties. Another effective
way in building family relationships is finding a common ground
and making compromises not only on your schedules but also on
your various interests. It is a good idea to take turns going to
your favorite places when out on a family trip.
Be there on special occasions School presentations and school
games are big things for every child. Whatever role they are
playing, whether they are the lone tree in the background or the
star of the show; whether they are reserves in a basketball game
or the power forward, it is important that parents be there to
watch the games and the presentations and support their children
in their projects. Your physical presence in these kinds of
occasions is crucial in building relationships with your child
as your attendance will express to your child that they matter
to you and that you are willing to give them a portion of their
time.