Parenting Just Right - The Number One Secret
Our number one secret is a simple formula that will help you
parent Just Right. You'll be in control of your emotions, proud
of your behavior, and pleased with your child's reactions. Let's
find out how.
I remember a young father who took his 6-year old daughter for a
walk. His daughter skipped and sang as they headed six blocks
downhill. When they turned around to head uphill, she screamed.
She whined. She cried. She demanded that her daddy carry her on
his shoulders. He told her firmly, "I don't like the way you're
talking to me. I won't carry you." Then he told her both firmly
and kindly, "But I will take your hand." She refused to take his
hand. She continued moaning and groaning. She even lagged
behind. When he kept on walking, she ran to catch up. Then she
pulled a new tantrum.
On the Discipline Stick, which looks like a ruler but
doesn't spank hands, the young father measured Just
Right. The numbers in the middle between 4-7 represent the
wide middle road and Just Right. He didn't discipline too
kind or not kind. He didn't discipline too firm or not firm. He
disciplined with the secret formula - Kind and
Firm.
Kind and Firm can be measured by:
The sound of your voice
The look on your face
The words
you say
The emotions you feel
The actions you take
Kind and Firm:
Sounds respectful
Looks serious
Talks with authority
Feels strong
Acts consistently
You'll get the results you want if you remember you are the
parent. Your children will learn limits and feel secure if you
are consistent. You'll enjoy being a parent if you are Kind
and Firm. You'll parent Just Right, using one of the
best parenting skills ever, if you ask yourself this powerful
question before disciplining:
How can I be Kind and Firm?
The Wrap-Up:
The 6-year old daughter had 2 more tantrums.
The young
father stayed firm and didn't give in.
The 6-year old
daughter stopped fussing and took his hand.
You too
can be Kind and Firm.
To parent Just Right ask yourself this powerful question
before disciplining:
How can I be Kind and Firm?
Never let your child's misbehavior get you down. Boost your
parenting skills by using this secret formula. You'll be
building character too.