A childs reaction to news of a death in the family
My nan was called Margaret and lived until the age of eighty
eight. Unfortunately she died in hospital and this article
describes how my son reacted to the news of her death. His
reaction basically put a smile back onto my face again.
I loved my nan to bits and I would always try to visit her at
least once a week. Her house was around ten miles away from ours
and we would all look forward to seeing her. I have son aged
four, a stepdaughter aged eleven and a fiancee (I won't tell you
her age, as she might hit me!)
My nan lived on her own in quite a nice flat and I am sure she
appreciated us visiting her. She always gave the kids biscuits
to eat, and they eventually re-named her "nanny biscuits".
She would always speak her mind and would say things to me like:
"Your looking a bit fat!" or "Are you married yet?"
I did not see this as a negative thing, I used to think it was
funny.
At the age of eighty eight, she was admitted to hospital and
died a few weeks later, after collapsing in the middle of night.
I was informed via a phone call and in the morning I broke the
news of her death to the rest of the family.
We were all very upset, however my son did not seem to fully
understand that he would not be able to see her again.
This was what he said: "Why can't I see her, where has she
gone?" "She has died and she has gone to heaven" "Can we go to
heaven on holiday?" "No, that's not possible, it is a long way
away." "We could go on a plane" "Sorry son, it is too far for a
plane to get to" "Well how did nanny get there?"
I am not sure why I gave the next answer: "On a heaven bike"
"Can I get a heaven bike for Christmas dad?" "No son" "So what
is like in heaven dad?" "Oh, it is an amazing place with lots of
sweets and lots of fun things to do" "I can not wait until I get
to heaven, I am going to take lots of money with me." "Why?" "So
that I can buy lots of sweets, of course".
This conversation made me smile again, at what was a very sad
time in my life.
Stephen Hill