How to Teach Your Child Right From Wrong
0 - 1 YEAR At this stage in life, the concepts of right and
wrong are not possible to teach. Rather, an infant who is shown
warmth, cuddling and loving attention is likely to grow into a
healthy and happy adult.
1 - 2 YEARS Rather than scolding a child or arguing with him
about misbehaver, try to take preventative measures beforehand.
If you don't want him pulling things out the cupboards, make
sure they are secured. At this age of short attention span,
discipline beyond a simple "no" is unnecessary and can have
undesirable effects.
2 - 4 YEARS Children of this age, unable to understand
abstractions such as generosity and truth, imitate their
parents. So set an example. Be firm in disallowing undesirable
behavior, but do so in a kind and friendly manner, without
attempting to explain why.
4 - 6 YEARS This is the time where you can really take some
positive steps to reinforce your child's positive behavior. Give
him lots of praise when it's due. Children of this age respond
well to simple reasoning and explanations. Concepts such as
truthfulness and generosity can be introduced. Continue to set
an example of acceptable behavior. The child at this stage wants
to please you and wants to be liked by others.
5 - 8 YEARS Children develop a greater social awareness at
this age. They understand the basic rights of others when taught
fairness, values and the need to follow certain rules of
behavior. Rules and limitations not only seem just to the child,
but give him a good feeling of security.
8 - 11 YEARS Due to natural growth and influences outside the
home, your child has likely become more independent. He may
begin to question your decisions, contradict or argue. You must
remain firm in the important matters and flexible in less
important ones. Demonstrate and discuss the child's duties and
responsibilities to friends, relatives and society. Set examples
of moral behavior. Sex education can also be important at this
stage.
12 - 17 YEARS These are normally rebellious years for most
teenagers. In fact, teenagers who never rebel are probably in
emotional trouble. As a parent you must weather the storm when
your teenager begins to question and test conventional values,
rules and beliefs. If you've instilled a sense of values at an
early age, chances are he still retains many of those ideas. Try
to keep lines of communication open and don't push the panic
button. If communication does break down and tensions mount
considerably, seek professional help.
18 YEARS AND OVER At this stage most young adults are forming,
or have formed, their own set of values. However, life still
holds for them many unanswered questions, and a warm yet honest
relationship can still go a long way in helping them reach
mature adulthood.
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