Child Discipline - Be Consistent With Your Discipline
Be Consistent With Your Child The biggest complaint you hear
from parents about their children is "they don't listen to me
and I have tried everything"
Then when you start talking, you find out that parents give in
at the end because it is just too exhausting to be consistent.
For example--you want your child to go to bed at a certain time.
Instead of sticking to that time and being consistent, your
child starts begging or screaming or taking a fit to stay up
later and you give in. What you need to do is just stick to the
time for a short while and your child will adapt after 4 or 5
times.
I have an example again today from someone who has a 14 year old
teenage girl. She lost her cell phone, and they still had
another year on their contract. Her mother didn't have the
insurance on the phone. Now her daughter wanted a new cell
phone. Well the cheapest cell phone to buy without a contract
with Verizon Wireless was an ugly bulky phone for $129.00. But
her daughter kept bugging her to get a new phone. Her mother had
a flip phone from 2 years ago. The phone's battery was dead.
While she was at a Verizon Wireless store, the store actually
had a battery that cost only $15 and she already had the
charger. So for $15 her daughter had a cell phone but she was
aggravated because she didn't get a new phone. Her mother
decided that phone was good enough and didn't listen to her
daughter's whining.
By the time her daughter got home, she was then okay with the
cell phone, even if it was 2 years old. After all, the daughter
lost the phone--she doesn't have the right to ask for a $200
phone when her older phone just needed a $15 battery pack. Her
mother was consistent in saying "this is the phone you are
keeping" and now that's the end of any arguing.
When you want some kind of change in a child's behavior, just
remember stick to your guns with CONSISTENCY. It may take some
work initially, but in the long run, you and your child will be
much happier.