How to Help Your Children Succeed in School
Introduction
As a parent who wants the best for your children, there are
undoubtedly many things that you already do every day to help
your children succeed in school. The purpose of this article is
to provide some practical ideas for you to try. Some of these
suggestions may be new to you, many will be familiar, and some
are just plain common sense but, hopefully, they will all serve
as reminders of the many simple steps you can take that are too
often taken for granted or forgotten about, due to the hectic
pace of everyday living.
Read to your kids, whatever their ages
First of all, read to your children. We all know that this is
important, but I'd like to point out that reading aloud should
begin in infancy. It can contribute to your baby's developing
attention span and receptive language skills. In addition, I'd
like to encourage parents to read to growing children, even once
they are able to read on their own. Don't stop once your kids
are in elementary school for, whatever the status of their
reading skills, hearing a good book read aloud is an experience
apart.
Being read to allows children to focus more on the descriptive
passages and the action, rather than having to struggle with
understanding every single word. It also allows them to hear
great children's stories that are beyond their current reading
level, and it's a wonderful way for a family to share a magical
experience. Choose a children's book that can also be enjoyed by
you as an adult, and have a family reading session each evening
or each week. A classic children's story, such as "The Wind in
the Willows," or the Harry Potter books might be perfect for
your family, depending on the ages and interests of your
children.
Encourage independent reading and library use
Offer quality children's literature to your growing children and
encourage them to read on their own - at their own level and at
their own pace. Fiction and nonfiction can both open up new
worlds of knowledge and experience and help prepare kids for
success in school and in adult life, and don't forget that
online children's stories are an exciting new resource to add to
your reading repertoire.
Take your children to the local public library. Be sure that
each member of the family has his or her own library card. Help
your children see the public library not just as a place
associated with homework and drudgery, but rather as an exciting
doorway to interesting information and adventure. Encourage
library book borrowing related to any special topic that
interests your kids - from astronomy to adventure stories, from
fact to fantasy.
Get your kids to participate in some of the special free extra
activities and programs that are regularly scheduled in many
public libraries, like storyhours, craft projects, films, and
summer reading clubs. Take your children to museums, concerts,
puppet shows and the like. Expose them to any forms of
entertainment and cultural enrichment that you may be lucky
enough to have access to.
Develop effective research skills and good study habits
Help your kids develop research skills that will serve them
well, not only on school projects, but later in daily life as an
adult. For instance, if you're planning a family trip, let the
kids conduct library and Internet-based research on possible
destinations, sites of interest, driving or flying routes, and
how to dress appropriately for the climate of your destination
spot. If you're thinking of buying a new car, let your kids take
part in your consumer research, comparing different car models
according to a variety of pertinent criteria.
Nurture good study habits and self-discipline. Set aside a
regular, daily study time for homework in a quiet, well-lit
room. Be sure that your kids have a study environment that's
sound physically, as well as conducive to mental concentration.
A quiet room is important, but so too is good lighting, a chair
that provides good back support and access to all the materials
that your children need to complete projects. Supply them with
pencils, erasers, rulers, and so forth.
Encourage kids to keep their desk or other study area neat and
well organized. This will prevent lots of time-wasting searches
for materials and will really pay off as your children get older
and their school assignments become more complex. Good
organizational skills, which include the arrangement of physical
objects, plus the logical structuring of the steps involved in
completing any given project, can last a lifetime.
Take an interest in your kids' day-to-day school life
Take an interest in your children's school projects. Encourage
them to show you reports they've written or pictures they've
drawn. Make them see that you care about what they're doing and
about how they're doing, but don't make them feel like they're
constantly being monitored or judged. Don't add pressure, just
give them plenty of support, encouragement and praise for jobs
well done. Provide them with the resources they need (such as
Internet access, library time, books and magazine articles) to
do a good job on school assignments, but... resist the
temptation to do the school projects for them.
Take the same approach with everyday homework. If your child's
having trouble with a math problem, review the rules, explain
the procedures, and check the results, but don't just give a
child the answers. The learning process is more important than a
list of correct answers to hand in to the teacher.
Go that extra mile
Among the most precious gifts that you can give to your children
is your time. Put them first and make time for them. Build a
happy, stable home environment, full of love and security, and
you've already gone a long way towards helping your children
thrive and succeed both in school and in life. Be involved in
the big and the small events that make up their daily lives.
Offer your support, encouragement, resources and love. Be there
for them, no matter how busy your professional life is or
whatever other commitments you have. Before you know it your
children will be grown up and what they'll become depends
largely on you. For their sake, as well as for your own, make
the most of their childhood.
There are no pearls of wisdom here, just a refresher course in
things that we've all heard a million times, but don't always
stop to take them to heart. They're so important that they
deserve our attention, to periodically remind us of what really
counts in life.