Tips on coping with a child with ADHD
I am a mother of a 6 year old son who was recently diagnosed
with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). I am by no
means a expert on this subject - I am only a mom who struggles
to help my ADHD child.
Listed below are some tips I have learned from experience along
the way.
1. Life with a child who has ADHD has its challenges, but
remember that your child is not acting up because they want to
be difficult - they can't help it . So it 's up to you to stay
calm and avoid arguing with your child. It helps to keep the
daily routine and home life as calm, predictable and stress-free
as possible.
2. Accept that there is a problem, whether or not you accept the
diagnosis. Denial will not help you or your child.
3. Be prepared to feel guilty about the time you spend with your
ADHD child compared to the time you spend with your other
children. Other family members may start to feel like your are
neglecting them.
4. Take care of yourself - it is often challenging to raise a
child with ADHD. Caring for your own physical and mental health
is an important part of helping your child, and will provide you
with the necessary energy when you need it the most.
5. The most important thing is NEVER punish your child while you
are angry. Take a breather away from the child before you hand
out any punishment to your child. Disicipline that belittles or
shames a child can truly be harmful.
6. Start rewarding instead of punishing. You've probably already
discovered how useless it is to try to punish your child when he
's running around or tuning you out. What I have found with my
child is how well he responds to simple rewards. Praise good
behavior immediately ("You brushed your teeth, just like I asked
you to! Thanks so much!") and give your child a reward that
pleases him such as a special snack or extra time to watch TV,
for example. The reward should be something he can enjoy right
away; kids with ADHD don 't like to wait.
7. Realize you are not alone. There are many parents out there
who have a child with ADHD. If you need to talk to someone, you
can find support groups out there. Talk to your Doctor or
Therapist. They can point you in the right direction to find
support.