"Divorce Reasons; What Constitutes A Viable Reason For Thinking
About Or Wanting A Divorce?"
According to the Center for Disease Control's National Vital
Statistics Report of 2002, 50% of first marriages ended in
divorce and 60% of remarriages end in divorce. But, the Center
for Disease Control also found that 96% of Americans express a
personal desire for marriage, and almost three-quarters of
Americans believe marriage is a life long commitment.
I imagine that there are somewhat similar statistics worldwide.
With these kinds of statistics, its easy to see how complex it
can be when people think they want a divorce, they have
difficulty identifying how a truly viable divorce reason might
be defined. Wanting happiness through marriage and wrestling
with what may seem an inevitable outcome (divorce), can be
emotionally and mentally challenging.
After all, it is human nature to want to feel nurtured and
secure, no matter where you live!
So, if you're thinking about getting a divorce, what are truly
viable reasons for actually getting a divorce?
Each government has different laws defining the difference
between 'fault' and 'no-fault' divorce reasons that have enough
merit that allow for the divorce to be granted.
While it makes sense for you to keep this in mind when deciding
whether or not to get a divorce because there may be financial
considerations to think of, you should first focus on defining
your own emotional or "personal" divorce reasons, regardless of
what the local governing body says.
If you ask 100 people how they define viable reasons for wanting
a divorce, you'll most likely get 100 different answers because
they'll answer you from their perspective, not yours.
Sure, there may be similarities to the way you feel in some of
those answers about 'real' divorce reasons, you may even agree
with some. But, the real answers to this question can only come
from you. You have to figure out what reason or reasons would be
viable in your mind in order to actually go through your
decision about getting a divorce or staying married.
Some reasons that people give for getting a divorce, or wanting
a divorce, are purely selfish and have no substance. An example
of a reason for wanting a divorce that has no substance is not
liking the fact that your spouse has constant unfounded
jealousy. There is a deeper problem that exists here, and in the
case of this example, it could be that the spouse who constantly
feels jealousy has a confidence problem or some sort of 'fear of
loss'. Whatever the case, the divorce reason in this example
clearly isn't viable and should relatively easy to fix.
Often times when people give 'surface' or flimsy reasons for
wanting a divorce, they really have much deeper feelings about
something and they're just using the shallow divorce reason as
an avoidance of some kind. Or, they give these 'foundation-less'
reasons for wanting a divorce because they actually aren't aware
that there are other deeper rooted reasons that are the cause of
the way they feel now.
Common reasons that cause people to think about or want to get a
divorce:
*Couple has conflicting personal beliefs
*Couple