Facing adversity
Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity?
Life can be good , but adversities are also part of life. How
does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the
extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through
adversities and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden
accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living
with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he
loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement
by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this
news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it
first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives
forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer
many adversities.
Who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness
could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are so many
instances of such people. I had corresponded with families of
cancer stricken children. The pain that I saw was enough to
shake the bravest heart. I remember a small kid girl, who
developed second degree burns as a reaction to her Chemotherapy.
Her mother had a guest book and the notes on that site could
make anyone weep. The pain that the child was undergoing was
tremendous. But the photographs of a capped child smiling and
laughing in the laps of her father were heart warming. Somewhere
the spirit was alive in the family to fight it out cheerfully.
I also remember my conversations with a blind man of 70 years of
age. He was secretary of one of the blind associations. For
sometime, during my talk, I realized that something strange was
happening. Then suddenly it stuck me that this gentleman was
using words such as Oh, I see, etc. without giving a pause. I
was amazed with this talk. I knew that he had been a blind man
for more than 40 years. I somehow gathered strength and asked
him about usage of such words . He told me casually that there
was nothing great about that. He could read and write and even
type as well as any normal person. Though he had Braille. And he
could see the faces with his touch. He had no regrets about his
blindness. He had taken it as a fact of life and there was no
feeling of having been dealt bad cards by the fate. Such people
make us feel that adversities come to strengthen us. They test
us. It is surely very tough to overcome them, but a strong will
and faith in oneself and one's God can give enough strength to
overcome them.
Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass
many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the
journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain
unmoved because - we are not directly pained by the scenes
outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In
any adversity, at least the second part can be applied. Come
what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as
an example for others. That should be our destination and that
should be our motivation.