You CAN change!
If we keep uppermost in mind the reason for our mortal
existence, the SUPREME PURPOSE for our human-being; to establish
contact with our Superior-Being and develop a relationship with
Him - then we'll know and understand that everything God does is
for our benefit. God wants to help us, not hinder us. He enjoys
encouraging us to attain our goals and fulfill our potential
(Luke 12:31-32). Father does know what's best: what He has in
store for us is beyond our wildest dreams (Ephesians 3:20; 1
Corinthians 2:9)!
God is Love
If anyone decides to engage in illicit sex or become entangled
in "foreign affairs," they're living a lie if they think that
God could possibly approve of their improper conduct, and
they're compounding their problems if they lead others astray by
attempts to endorse such flagrant sin (Romans 1:32). Do what you
want, but don't misrepresent God and His clear-cut biblical
teachings! Don't try and put words in His mouth or censor what
He's actually said (Revelation 22:18-19).
Yes, GOD IS LOVE! That's why He hates certain practices with a
passion. He frowns upon a dishonest life of stealing, an
unfaithful habit of "cheating" on our spouse, a disrespectful
attitude towards our parents or persons in authority, religious
holidays that are hollow and don't hallow His name, senseless
killings and character assassination, idolatrous distractions
that come between God and us, an endless trivial pursuit and
preoccupation with ourselves and others, instead of putting God
first! God loves us and wants us to love Him too, but He
considers love more than a four-letter word: love is an attitude
exemplified by actions, words that are backed up with deeds
(Jas. 2:26). That's why Jesus said that if we really loved Him,
we'd show it and not just say it (John 14:15).
Safe-Sex
Since God is love, and Father knows best, He wants us to
practice safe-sex. A safe-sex that's good and wholesome, clean
and pure, and only available within a marriage where both
partners keep their vows and honor their commitments (Hebrews
13:4). Sexual intimacy, cuddling and coitus, belongs in the
bedroom (of the biblically-bonded), and it's to involve the
union of both minds and bodies (Genesis 2:24). Married couples
are challenged to become compatible in every sense of the word.
A marriage certificate doesn't have to be "just a piece of
paper" or become another broken record! God does recognize the
fact that marriage isn't for everyone (Matthew 19:11), but
expresses His will that singles remain celibate (1 Thessalonians
4:3).
God only promises to bless those foods (or relationships) that
are sanctioned by His Word (1 Timothy 4:4-5). He's not unsure of
Himself or His ways, He's not fickle or foolish, and His Word is
reliable, dependable, and not subject to change. This hasn't
caused the scriptures to be too popular at times, but they
refuse to succumb to peer pressure and remain true to
themselves. They're not what needs to change anyway. We do! God
hasn't lowered His moral standards or compromised with His food
laws, but offers to help raise us to His God-Plane. Christ can
cleanse us of our unclean lives (Acts 10:15, 28), because God
hasn't called us to remain in Egypt but to head for the Promised
Land. Don't just stand there, get a move on it! And leave your
excess baggage (sin) behind.
Kosher Food
Although God created us with a hunger drive, an appetite, He
doesn't want us to become gluttonous pigs. Neither does He want
us to act like horny dogs (1 Corinthians 6:13). God's also shown
us that just because various food items have been mislabeled
"delicacies," we don't have to shove them into our mouths
(Leviticus 11). We're expected to be mature, not act childish.
God warns us to guard the doors of our mind, don't set ourselves
up for a fall, and discern what we digest (Ephesians 4:27;
Hebrews 5:14). We're instructed to scrutinize our food for
thought and remember "we are what we eat" and "we become what we
think" (Proverbs 23:7). God doesn't only want us to watch what
we put into our mouths, but what we allow into our minds
(Philippians 4:8). For a free list of "government approved" food
for thought; what's clean and unclean, pure and impure, kosher
and non-kosher - check out Galatians 5:19-23; Ephesians 5:11 and
Philippians 1:11.
We're not supposed to remain raw material. God's given us a
brain to become refined and keep our baser "instincts" in line
(2 Peter 2:12). The Holy Spirit offers us the help we need to
accomplish this job (John 1:12). We should refuse to be reduced
to an animal level, simply sensual creatures, choosing a higher
standard of living instead. The "if it feels good do it" and "if
it looks good eat it" lack of mentality ought to be regarded as
an insult to those striving for God's higher intelligence.
Regardless of why you're heterosexual, gay, bisexual or
"trysexual" (you'll try anything once), whether or not you've
had any choice in the matter - you do have a choice to exercise
proper self-control. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SLAVE TO YOUR SENSES
(John 8:34), or allow sexual temptations to dictate mindless
reactions (Genesis 19:4-11). You're not forced to act upon every
thought that enters your mind. You can resist suggestions and
reject impulses (2 Corinthians 10:5). Every fleeting thought,
random idea or stray notion doesn't have to take root and grow
if you don't give it fertile ground (James 1:13-15). You can
consider its source and nip it in the bud. A "NO TRESPASSING!"
frame of mind can be developed to defend you against intruders.
Protection is possible. You can say NO! You can curb your
appetite! YOU CAN CHANGE!