Building Your Self-Confidence at Work
Many people wish they felt more secure about their abilities on
the job. In other words, they're looking for increased
self-confidence when it comes to performing the work, dealing
with coworkers, and handling tough situations. If you're one of
these people, you're not alone. What can you do to feel more
self-assured about your job?
First, remember that you are not your job. That is, if you make
a mistake at work, this does not mean that you are stupid,
worthless, or that you're in the wrong position. It's all too
easy to take mistakes personally, seeing them as a reflection of
your true person rather than for what it is: a mistake. Even
though it may not always appear so, everyone makes mistakes from
time to time.
The best way to deal with a mistake is to own up to it right
away and present a solution. This shows that you are honest, and
by presenting ways to fix the problem, your boss can send you on
your way to deal with the issue. Acting honestly and
straightforwardly is best for you--you'll feel better about
yourself--and best for the company (which again will help you
feel better).
Another common issue is feeling insecure when it comes to
coworkers. Many people feel that they do not fit in, are unsure
how to handle conflict, or have an overbearing coworker or boss
that they don't know how to communicate with. Any of these
feelings can wear at your self-esteem. You may feel you have
nothing to offer the group, whether socially or on projects, you
avoid conflict, and may allow others to step on you. If
socialization is a problem, it will require you to step out of
your comfort zone a bit.
This does not mean you need to jump right in with a large
company gathering; rather, take it slow by opening conversations
with one or two coworkers. Chances are you'll have something in
common. Asking questions about the other person is always a
great way to go; just avoid questions with simple yes or no
answers.
When dealing with conflict resolution and difficult employees,
learning some proven communication techniques may be necessary.
Consider attending a course on conflict resolution and dealing
with difficult people. In the meantime, remember that the
overbearing person likely has a lot of insecurities as well, and
these are what cause the behavior. In the midst of conflict, do
your best to avoid being pulled into argumentative situations.
Don't reward the other person's behavior by getting upset or
immediately backing down. If necessary, say you'll continue the
conversation when everyone has had a chance to cool down.
Dealing with negative coworkers is never fun. Try and remember
that your self worth is not dependent on the coworker's
approval, even if that person is your boss.
It could be you're feeling unsure about your skills. This one
is pretty easy--learn more! Many companies offer continuing
education options, will pay for schooling, or offer professional
development in house. Whatever your employer offers, take
advantage. If your company does not have this option, find some
good books on the subject. Ask your colleagues for suggestions,
or if you're a member of any type of professional group, seek
advice there as well. Many of your peers will have good
suggestions on what's worth looking into.
Finally, give yourself some challenges. One great way to build
your self confidence at work is to take on a special project or
extra work. If you choose something you feel passionate about or
something in your specialty area, you can show yourself and your
colleagues that you are able to produce results. Even if you
fail, you're showing initiative and willingness by taking on
special projects. Knowing that you put yourself out there,
rather than sitting on the sidelines, can be a great confidence
booster. And the same can be said for when it goes well.