When other people hurt you!
In life we all experience our ups and downs. Even if many of us
would like life to be pretty much simple or perfect. However,
this is far from reality. In life there is a balance between
happiness and sadness. The sources that lead to either feeling
may vary. Examples of what brings happiness to some people are
obtaining a college degree, starting a new career, seeing an old
friend etc. There is really not just one action or situation
that can bring a smile in to our faces. However, this same
principle applies to the feeling of sadness or grief. One reason
why a person may feel sad could be cause by the actions of
another person. If you ever felt sad because someone you love
hurt you by betraying you, being mean to you etc. Then you get
my point.
But, what should you do when a significant other hurts you? In
my opinion you should not do anything; Except for standing up
for yourself, by this I mean that it is okay to communicate your
feelings to them and protecting yourself if necessary. Other
than that you should let life run its course. I do not know
about you but, I am a firm believer of "karma" or on the popular
saying "what goes around comes around." When a person is unfair
with me or simply treats me in a wrongful manner, I would
usually withdraw or confront them. But, I do not try to take
justice in to my own hands (revenge).
I know that some people would disagree with me but, we are not
all alike and that is fine. For me personally, whenever someone
does not appreciate me as a person, friend, lover, etc. and does
me wrong I believe that it is their loss not mines. I believe
that whenever someone that you have done nothing wrong to treats
you unfairly it is a direct reflection of their personality.
Think about it people that can not respect or appreciate you for
who you are may not deserve you after all. An example of this
would be a cheating partner he or she may have one thousand
excuses and they may sound like this: my partner does not take
care of me, my partner is mean to me, my partner does not help
me, my partner does not appreciate me etc. I will stop listing
excuses but I am pretty sure that you can add several more
issues to it. When in reality the cheating spouse may be leaving
out a few problems related to their own character flaws and they
sound like this: I am being un-loyal to the person that shares
his or her life with me; I am cheating because I am unable to be
committed in a relationship etc. Did you see the connection?
Isn't it evident that the cheating partner has more issues than
the other one? Wouldn't things be different if the person sought
to fix the problem with their partner instead running out and
taking actions that will further destroy the marriage? Yes, I
believe it would make a thon of difference.
So, whenever someone hurts you, do not let their actions change
anything about you. Let life take its course and one day karma
will catch up with them. Then they will know that treating
others poorly is wrong. You on the other hand get to keep your
head up!