My gun is loaded, and I'm ready to pull the trigger!
Have you ever gotten upset about something, and said things (or
did things) that you later regret? I have. Sometimes, stress is
a trigger that causes us to fire our guns. Our pistols are
loaded, and angry words shoot out like bullets. Inocent
bystanders are hit and wounded.
Backed into a corner, we shoot out of self-defense. Part of the
problem may be that we aren't aware of our physical and
emotional state. Fear, anger and stress causes us to pull the
trigger.
What helps us to change is awareness. This sounds simple, but it
is true. Half of the battle in reducing stress is increasing our
awareness of how we react to people and situations.
What kind of stress do you experience on a daily basis? Almost
anything in your environment can trigger stress. Consider the
following stress triggers:
Your workplace. Do you have a disorganized boss, or a co-worker
who you can't get along with? Or perhaps your subordinates are
unreliable, lazy or deceitful. If it isn't the people at work,
it's the threat of downsizing, merger, take-over, acquisition,
etc.
Your home. If you're a stay-at-home parent, you may feel that
your dreams and aspirations have fallen by the wayside. Your
total focus has become cooking, cleaning, and caring for your
children and spouse. There may be little or no time left for
just you.
Relationships. It is stressful to have conflicts between you and
your spouse, children, relatives or friends.
Poor nutrition. Do you eat fresh fruit and vegetables? Do you
take vitamins? If not, your body is not getting the vital
nutrients that it needs to survive and thrive. In other words,
your body is suffering from nutritional stress. If you improve
your eating habits, you will have more energy and feel better
during the day.
Overeating. Eating too much or the wrong foods puts a strain on
your heart. Nutritionist Paul Bragg once said, "You are what you
eat, drink, breathe, think, say, and do." Many people over-fuel
their body. They eat too much, and their lifespan is shortened
because of it.
Water. Do you drink eight glasses of water every day? If you
don't drink enough water, your body will be physically stressed
and susceptible to disease. Our body is made up of over 70%
water. Water plays an important part in nearly every body
function, from circulation to digestion to elimination.
Chemical substances. Do you smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs?
Do you take prescription medicine or over-the-counter drugs?
This can put physical stress on your liver, lungs and kidneys.
There are many other things in our lives that trigger stress.
Awareness may be the first step in putting things into
perspective. Awareness causes you to realize that you've got a
challenge on your hands.
It may be impossible to eliminate stress, but you can respond to
it in a healthy and constructive way. It is better not to
respond with anger, lashing out or even "stuffing" your
feelings. Don't feel sorry for yourself either. Take a deep
breath, hold it for a few seconds and exhale slowly. Do this
several times, if you need to gain composure.
When you're calm and level headed, you'll be ready to think
clearly. You'll also be able to respond appropriately. Ask
yourself: "What am I going to do next? What actions will I take
to change or resolve matters? What can I do differently? If
something is not working, how can I adjust my approach?"
Whatever you decide to do, awareness (and taking action) will
help you get on your way to less stress.