How To Deal With Shyness
Although shyness can be overcome, there is a fair chance that
certain aspects of your shyness will remain a part of you for
life. This is not something to worry about for there are many
ways to deal with shyness. Here are a few tips to keep in mind:
1. Get to know yourself well. If you consider yourself shy, you
must learn to identify your strengths and weaknesses. While this
is good advice for anyone, shy people must especially make full
use of their strengths to avoid unnecessary vulnerability in
difficult situations. Please take note that this does not mean
you should avoid being assertive and stating your own opinions.
This simply means that you should maximize the use of your
strengths to compensate for your shyness.
2. Identify your form(s) of shyness. Whether you suffer from a
minor form of shyness or from extreme social anxiety, you should
get to know what exactly triggers your shyness and what you can
do about it. Certain people are only shy while being in the
spotlight; others may get anxiety attacks from simply being
introduced to someone new. Once you identify your form of
shyness, you will know exactly what to work on.
3. Work with your shyness. There is no point in fighting your
shyness to the point of making yourself feel down about it. You
should start by accepting the fact that you may occasionally
encounter setbacks in certain aspects of your social life. At
the same time, you must realize that you possess one of the
greatest gifts on this planet. You have the ability to be a
great listener and to grasp important details that other people
may not take not of. Most shy people underestimate the value of
this communication skill. You must also realize that while being
shy can be difficult, achieving success is very possible. All
shy people have the potential to succeed. In fact, shyness can
often make people even more determined to accomplish their
goals. There are numerous shy people who have done incredible
things with their lives that even the most confidant people
could never accomplish.
4. Focus on one aspect of your shyness. Shyness can only be
overcome with a tremendous amount of work. If you plan on
overcoming your shyness, you cannot be unrealistic with your
expectations. Perfecting your social interactions in all
possible conditions will never be achieved at once. Here are
some examples of various aspects that you could work on:
self-esteem, body language, communication, teamwork, public
speaking, networking, interactions with the opposite sex, etc.
5. Never give up on your shyness. Aim for the stars and at the
very least, you will reach the moon. Continuously read up on
shyness and other forms of self-help, which may be of use to
you. Never let anyone bring you down and lower your self-esteem.
You have the power to overcome your shyness and live your life
to the fullest.