How to make relationships work
The keys ingredients to a healthy relationship are respect,
love, trust, individuality, patience, compromise, setting goals
as a couple, and intimacy.
1. Respect is a two way
street, you must respect your partner if you want them to
respect you. Respect their thoughts, dreams, ambitions and their
alone time. Treat them as you would want them to treat you when
you discuss their ambitions or just their hobbies.
2.
Love is one of those emotions that many people can turn on and
off on a whim. If you are one of those type people, then your
relationships will never go far. When you really love someone
you take care to pay attention to their desires and their needs.
If you turn off your love when your partner does not agree with
you, then you are not acting out of love but out of selfishness.
Selfishness does not belong in a relationship. When you become
partners you should be one. That does not mean that the other
person will always agree, but you should be able to see their
point of view and work through the situation in a loving manner.
3. Trust the person that you have chosen to spend the
rest of your life with. If you are always questioning their
whereabouts or their motives, they will soon not want to come
home and be put under the microscope.
4. Let them be
themselves. Individuality is very important for each person to
attain. Just because they are your partner does not mean that
you were joined at the hip on your wedding day. Let your spouse
go play golf, go shopping or enjoy other hobbies that make this
person the one that you fell in love with. If you take away
their individuality, they will no longer be that person, but
someone you have molded them into. They will become unhappy and
so will you.
5. Patience is one ingredient that many
couple seems to ignore. But, you are beginning a life together.
You both have your own little habits that may annoy one another,
but if you have patience and discuss these annoying habits you
both will be able to overcome and share your life together. We
all grow in a relationship and growing means change, have
patience with each other as your marriage or relationship
blossoms and grows.
6. Compromising is one tough
subject for anyone. Who really wants to compromise at all? Let