Meditation Is Like A Dinner Party
Try Not To Force Things Too Much
Often, when meditating, we try too hard to force a certain state
of mind that we think we should have. We try hard to suppress
thoughts, for example. This is just another thought, of course,
and another obstacle to the peaceful state we are hoping for.
So how do you make things happen that can't be forced? The
question itself shows the need for another perspective. Some
things can't be forced to happen, and all struggles to do so
only take you farther away. There are times when all you can do
is prepare and wait.
The Dinner Invitation
Imagine a wonderful evening with new friends. You prepared
dinner, bought a good bottle of wine, and cleaned the house. Now
the guests are here, the conversation is great, and you are
happy. Can you make this happen? Yes and no.
You can prepare in every way to make it a pleasant event, but in
the end, the guests can decline your invitation, or not arrive,
or show up late, right? You can't force them to come, or if you
try, you'll ruin the atmosphere or even the friendship.
That is how meditation is, too. You do what is necessary to
prepare for a good experience, but in the end, you can't force
it. Work and discipline help, just like cleaning up and chilling
the wine are necessary to prepare for a good dinner party, but
there is no forcing the result. When the experience is a good
one, enjoy it, but if it doesn't happen, just prepare again.
So when you want to invite inspiration into your meditation, or
into your life, don't try to push the guest through the door.
When you are tempted to do so, turn back to your preparations,
and concentrate on that. Just send out the invitations, prepare
yourself, and relax.