Five Ways to Expand Your Comfort Zone
Expanding your comfort zone isn't quite the same as building
self-confidence. However, the two do fit together rather nicely.
The one begets the other. So many people feel stuck in a rut...
bored from a routine that is safe and comfortable but not very
exciting. Fear of falling flat on your face or of looking
foolish stops you from reaching out beyond that cozy little life
you've created for yourself. If your goal is to expand your
comfort zone, then you must think positive while doing these.
Remember that nothing really bad can happen to you if you are
smart in how you go about trying new things. It's all just new
adventures. Become like a curious child and have some fun.
1) Join Toastmasters or take a theater class. The idea here is
that you force yourself into public speaking. By learning how to
project your voice and how to think clearly while on stage, you
will be able to better conduct yourself in business and when
getting your point across to others. This will build a lot of
self-confidence, which will help you to really push your comfort
zone in regards to speaking out in front of others. Everyone is
always terrified at first. Public speaking is the number one
phobia in America. You will be shocked to discover just how much
fun this can be. You'll get bit by the acting bug or the public
speaking bug before you know it. It will most likely become a
new hobby that you'll love dearly.
2) Drive home a different route every day for a week and shop at
completely new grocery store. By breaking out of your normal
daily routine, you become aware of just how much time you spend
tucked away safely within your comfort zone. Breaking out of
your rut can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or
rearranging the furniture at home. You can trade bedrooms with
one of your roommates or move into a new home. Go on vacation to
a completely unfamiliar location. The idea here is to change
your physical environment and to mix up your overall sensory
experiences. By forcing yourself into new locations, you not
only become aware of how attached you are to your favorite old
haunts, but you also force yourself to see the world from a new
angle.
3) Learn a new sport. This one has to be done with respect to
your age and physical health. For some it could be an extreme
sport like sky diving. For others it could be learning to play
tennis or to play golf. The idea is that you again force
yourself into meeting other people while pushing yourself
physically into unknown territories. You should obviously pick
something that you'll enjoy doing and that won't hurt. If you
have bad knees don't take up running or high impact aerobics. If
you are bored out of your mind while watching baseball, then you
probably aren't going to enjoy playing it either. You also need
to consider honestly whether or not you are a team player. You
might be better off learning to rock climb rather then to play
flag football. Whatever you choose, commit yourself to learning
it completely and be safe.
4) Compliment three strangers each day for a week. This isn't
the same as public speaking. This is private speaking. In order
to do this one correctly, you have to become fully aware of the
people around you. You'd be amazed at just how many strangers
you pass every day. You also have to think of genuinely nice
things to say. It's not enough to simply speak to three
strangers, but to compliment them forces you to think about the
person before you speak to them. We can randomly say, "Nice
weather we're having" to everyone we meet. That's not really
connecting and concentrating on another human being. Force
yourself outside of your comfort zone so as to tell strangers
that you noticed something good about them. You will make their
day and your own. You may even find yourself with some new
friends by the end of the week.
5) Volunteer at an elderly care center, a children's cancer
clinic, or an AIDS hospice center . They will love you for just
showing up and in conversing with them you'll learn all about
people's real regrets in life. People never say, "I really did
experience too many adventures." Instead, they almost always
comment on all of the adventures they denied themselves. They
talk of how if they had it to do all over again... how they'd be
more spontaneous and loving. There's nothing quite like seeing
folks at the end of their life to make you really appreciate
your own. Spend some time giving of yourself to those who don't
have a lot of time left and you'll soon come to realize how much
the world has to offer. Perhaps you will want to take a bigger
bite out of life before it's too late?
All of these ideas are variations on the same theme. You are to
practice becoming spontaneous. The whole point of a too tight
comfort zone is that you do not give yourself room to be free,
playful, and spontaneous. You are too self-censoring and too
routine for your own happiness. Once you've tried a few things
on this list, then make a list of 100 things that you want to
accomplish before you die and start doing them. Have a wonderful
time with this concept. There's no reason to expand your comfort
zone so as to take on more work duties or more responsibilities.
You will have enough of that thrust upon you in life. You're
going to do this one for your own happiness and nobody else's.
Give yourself permission to expand your wings so you can fly a
little higher and a little further to see what else is out there.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge