What Mistakes Men Do When They Approach Women
Most men find the task of approaching a woman especially if she
is very attractive stranger a difficult and embarrassing one.
Not only that, they usually take the wrong attitude of being too
nice and over generous with flowers, paying for dinners and
expressing their lake of confidence and low self esteem.
The women on their part are not attracted to insecure,
dishonest, wussy men. They will either reject him on the spot or
even worse take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to
provide her dinner after dinner, present after present and
usually see other man for real love, romance and sex. In this
situation the woman has two men a provider and a lover.
The nice boy, kiss ass, wussy approach can be seen when a man is
asking a woman to dance or offer to buy her a drink without
first to build the attraction or chemistry first.
What is the right way to go then?
The nice boy approach is not the right way as we seen above and
being really mean and rude will not work either, the right way
that has proven 90% of the times to work magically with women is
the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.
In this approach you build the relations on a give and take, a
compliment and a bust (with a smile), you show the woman you are
confident enough to criticize her, you express yourself
naturally around women, you are not afraid of her, you are not
concerned if she likes you or not, you are honest and express
your opinions openly, you are playing the self assured hard to
get funny guy. Now you put her self confidence to the test, you
challenge her, you Intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let
her chase you! You should be her prize, a reword for her hard
earned efforts for playing her cards right with you.
For instance you start and say something like: I like your
jacket it's really nice (a compliment), then comment: but it
doesn't fit so well with your shoos is it ? (a bust), you do it
on purpose, you should practice on it.
You should play with her like hand it to her and then take it
away in the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected and
fascinating.
How do you know if she is interested?
Its simpler than you think and it goes like that: You engage
with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you'r wearing , I
really like them, She is looking who is it and then say: Thanks.
You: aren't you melting in them at such a hot weather? (smiling)
or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling)
hell, no, I love them, thats all, I'll bet my feet are nicer in
comparison with yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded so she is
engaged too *-). You: wow, I understand you develop a very good
opinion about yourself attractive lady, why won't we arrange a
feet contest...
The important thing is to keep it running with light humoristic
and fun approach. Without even realizing it you are mutually
engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual
attraction.
When you start dating with a woman keep in mind you are not on a
job interview, don't make it sound like questions and answers
don't make it boring, don't try to impress her, talk with her
about general stuff she understands and sympathize with like
popular TV shows and such, it might look to you at first
somewhat superficial but this is the way to go. Try to avoid at
least at first to talk about your problems at work, your
relations with your parents etc'.
Some Dating tips for the Timid
There are some timid, shy people out there that have
difficulties to make an open conversation with new partners,
they usually need more time to adjust to the situation. A simple
convenient solution for them might be to go on a first date to
the movies and by that to be able to get used to the presence of
the new partner without the need to talk. When you come out you
can talk about the movie you just both watched.
Another idea, if you're shy about making conversation, is to ask
your date about herself. It will help to show that you're
interested in learning about her, as well as take some of the
pressure of talking off you until you're more comfortable. By
making them do the talking you will feel less pressured and
eventually you will relax enough to talk about yourself.
Finally, take into account that most people like to talk mainly
about themselves, actually what they need most is someone to
listen to them attentively, so if you are a good listener you
will find many people feel very comfortable with you.