Pure Seduction - How To Get Men To Pursue You!
There are many confusing "RULES" on what women can do to become
more successful with the male gender. On one hand we are told
that men have a fragile ego that needs stroking until your paws
go sore. We are told pouting your sweet lips puerile-like and
aaahing and oohing his every move will increase his feelings for
you. Never point out his mistakes or try to out smart him.
Verbal attacks or contradicting him hurts his feelings, so veil
sharp criticism into tender kitty's purrrrs. Flirting with other
men will make him jealous, and he might even walk out. In short,
smile often, lie down and pretend to be dead and - oooohhh -
remember to purr-rrrr every time he asks if are still alive!.
On the other hand we are told men pine after bitches poised as
vixens who maintain their power, independence and autonomy by
making men slave for their attention. And to be the bitch men
queue to get her telephone number you must act aloof when he
approaches you. Brush him off - persistently. Don't show him how
you feel - act like other things are more important than him.
And when he calls you to postpone a date because he has some
urgent business matter to attend to, tell him you already have
another date anyway. In other words, play impossible to get,
pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after
you in droves..
If you've tried the kitty purring and tried playing "I don't
need a man" and the only thing still chasing you is your own
shadow. Then you need to read this.
What many women don't know and men don't tell us is that men
love the illusion of being the hunters and are thrilled by the
thought of chasing a real (or imagined) foxy woman. So to get
the men to pursue you, you must have some sort of spin to your
game plan. What that means is that even if you are a
tender-hearted deer or can ram and butt like a buffalo but can
put a spin to the chase, you are most likely be to perceived as
game. And this foxy spin is universal in its appeal. It gives
the sense of novelty or "newness" a code that seems to be
pre-programmed in the male gene. A spin is different from
"tricks" or deceitful acts. A spin is a playful act with a bit
of mystery in it. It is a build up of intrigue; in which with
every lingering look, every expression, every body move you make
him wonder what makes you tick and what's going on in your
"sexy" head.
Like when a guy comes up to me (how I make him come to me will
be the subject of another article), he usually introduces
himself..."my name is Denzel Washington" (I like to fantasize),
I shake his hand and say "nice meeting you Denzel" and stop at
that. He'd then ask "and what is your name?" Playfully I ask
"what would you like it to be?" Most guys are not ready for
this...and I can literally see their testosterone level go up.
Most of them laugh nervously, some even blush - those who can
blush - and keep asking the same question. I just laugh and walk
away foxy-like (notice I said "walk" away not "run' away). For
those of you who might not understand what a "foxy-walk" is,
think Harley Berry in Cat Woman. Some follow me around and from
their body language I can read that they are thinking "this is
going to be interesting". Others laugh, hang around a while and
then go to mingle and meet other women. I have had guys go away
and come back to ask for my name. And they can do this at
intervals the whole evening. If I really like a guy, I will in
the course of the evening "accidentally" bump into him. And if
he is interested he will ask for my name again. This time I ask
him to call me anything that comes to his mind. Whatever he
calls me, I smile and say "Thank you, from now on my name is
Mystery" or whatever name he gives me and again walk away -
foxy-like. I have had guys steal up behind my back and call me
by the name they gave me...and I am always alert...I promptly
answer like it has been my name all my life...
Once I met my match (or he thought he was). He sort of had my
"number" because he was pressing all the right buttons. I found
his direct, saucy and self-confident ways rather very seductive.
This 40 - something white man reminded me of the boys in my
native village - the cockiness and self-confidence I am yet to
see anywhere else in the world. Their every look, word, touch
and every breath is so alive with erotic electricity and without
saying a word they pay your whole body compliments, ask
questions just with eye expression alone. Their "come and get
me" stubbornness can be irritating but at the same time you feel
the tagging on your heart-strings and before you know it they
got you hooked on that you forget they can't even read or write
let alone recite the alphabet. How many men do you know can make
you feel like a sex goddess and ravish you with just they eyes
alone, Hmmm? Theirs is seduction in its purest form!
Anyways, my evening's heartthrob suddenly vanished and for the
rest of the evening, ignored me. When I was just about to leave
(I am sure he was watching me how else would he have known I was
planning to leave...) he came and asked for my telephone number.
I gave him a piercing look then said "Okay, even if you ignored
me the whole evening - and by the way that really hurt, I will
give you my number because you look like a lot of fun". See, the
message I was passing on was "I am also a lot of fun and you you
have no idea what you are missing". I wrote my number on a blank
card - I don't give guys I am interested in my business card
because when they read "Dating Coach", they will never call, so
I always have a nice set of blank cards.
He took the card and turned to go. And as he walked away, I
called him and in a matter of fact said "Shawn, the best time to
call me is between 10 pm and midnight" my work day doesn't
finish until about 10 p.m.. He nodded. But it was obvious to me
he was the kind of man who wanted to be in control and didn't
like a woman telling him when to call her. So I said "if a man
picks up the phone, please just tell him that we met today" ( I
had a male friend visiting from out of town). He walked back and
asked "Do you have a boyfriend?" To which I replied "Call me",
winked and I left. He called me that very night. He wanted to
know if I had a boyfriend and by the way he said "what is your
name?"
Forget about "THE RULES" that only over-complicate everything.
The real fact of the matter is that guys want women who can be
down-to-earth, genuine and original. Women who are bold,
assertive and flirtatious. They want the chase as much as they
want the woman and they still want the chase to continue even
when he's married you. And if you want to keep his interest you
must remain the woman he was chasing in the first place. Spins
don't have to be just for getting attention. If there is a
connection and the relationship moves forward, come up with
other new spins which feel natural and compliment your
personality. Spin's got to be new and fresh every time - and
mysterious leaving the rest up to his imagination - because if
your man isn't challenged enough, he will go find the challenge
elsewhere.
When a man meets a woman he automatically imagines what life
with her would be like. A spin gives men the mystery and
challenge which for most of them (unfortunately for us women who
want to be appreciated for more, like our emotional and
spiritual strengths) means a woman who they can bond with
mentally and sexually. I don't want to disappoint my "sisters of
the move" but on a first or second meeting it is really hard to
tell your emotional or spiritual strengths by just looking or
talking for a few minutes and if you keep forcing it down their
throats you are yesterdays toast. Bottom line is that men are
first attracted to women who are uninhibited and look like they
love fun just as much as they do. And the way they tell that is
by how a woman "advertises' her potential....cute, fun, smart,
fun, self-confident, fun, sexy, fun, caring, fun... you get the
picture. A woman who is so stuck-up is every man's nightmare,
even for those guys who themselves are uptight. Don't paint the
whole picture for him, it takes out the mystery and turns