The Fine Art Of Flirting
Did you know that it is not necessarily your looks or your bank
account that will get you the Date of Your Dreams? Even those
with average features and ordinary bank account funds can have
the pleasure of being with someone they thought was
unattainable. You think I'm kidding, right? I'm not! Want to
know how? By learning the Fine Art of Flirting!
Now guys, as explained in my book "the Ultimate Online Dating
Handbook" women will tell you that being approached with a
"pick-up line" is one huge "turn off." Most women have heard
them all hundreds of times. So, hearing an other one from you
will just make you look unoriginal (at the very least) in her
eyes. A better approach would be to start up a conversation with
the woman of your dreams. About what? Well, how about your
immediate surrounding, or a common condition. Do this in a witty
statement that appears to be spontaneous. This form of flirting
makes a woman feel as though you consider her special enough to
start up a honest to goodness conversation with her. Definite
brownie points for you.
You know the old saying "Flattery will get you every where!"
Well, in the world of dating flattery is a great form of
flirting. We all like to be complimented. So when you give a
woman an unexpected compliment this tends to be the most sincere
form of flattery. The best and most useful compliments are given
on something others would miss. Take a look at the person you
want to meet or date, a real good look. What can you compliment
her on that no one else would notice? This is what you need to
find. Remember, if you are trying to get the attention of a
beautiful woman, you can be assured other men are trying to as
well. And so, I'm sure she has heard a thousand times how
beautiful she is, how nice her hair is, eyes, lips, etc. And
while I'm sure she appreciates the compliments, your goal is to
stand out from the crowd. Be the one that she will remember by
complimenting her on something different than the other's,
something original. But here's the thing, you do not want to use
the flattery line to often. Flatter to much and you will end up
looking like a phony and she will lump you in with all the other
losers who try to win her heart.
The next time you see someone you would real like to meet try
doing a Double Take. Simply, as you walk by her look at her,
then take a second glance looking back much more intently the
second time. The second glance will say to her "You have sooo
caught my eye!" And, since people are naturally curious you'll
have her wondering what is it about her that caught your eye.
It's important when doing the double take that your glance does
not turn into a stare. Gawking at any woman will only make her
feel uncomfortable. So your glance should only last a few
seconds, maybe with a slight smile before you turn away.
Also, be aware of your grooming habits. You always want to look
your best, be well groomed, smell nice, have fresh breath, and
wear clothes that flatter you. Men always want their women to be
nice looking and attractive. Well, women want the same thing in
a man. If you smoke carry some gum with you. Always have a comb
handy and even some cologne.
Do you have a great sense of humor? Yes? Good, then make your
date laugh. Use your great sense of humor as a form of flirting.
It is said that if a man can make a woman laugh, he has the best
chance to win her heart. Having said that, make sure you are
witty. Don't behave like it is comedy night at the local pub. Be
careful what you comment on, don't be critical or too wild,
don't over do it. The idea here is to get her to warm up to you,
and not make a nuisance of yourself.
Everyone likes to hear their own name. Once you are introduced
to someone repeat her name in your greeting. Something like "Hi
Julie, Happy to meet you!" Then as you speak with her in a
conversation where ever it is possible use her name again. There
are two reasons for doing this. First, the more she hears her
name from you, the more comfortable she'll get with you. And
second, it will help you to remember her name. Like everything
else don't over do this. Just insert her name into the
conversation where ever it feels right.
While this article can not tell you every thing about flirting,
it does give you some ideas to get you started. Flirting like
all Fine Arts require practice. The more you do it the more
comfortable you will be and therefore the better you will be at
it.
Good Luck! Marie Clare Relationship Consultant & Author