How To Get The Date Of Your Dreams!
What do people look for in a date? Once you have the answer to
this question you will have the power to appeal to any women/man
you want. So let's have a look at some of the basics.
Remember the saying "you never get a second chance to make a
great first impression." Well, as explained in my book "the
Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" this statement is also true in
the dating world. Did you know that when meeting someone for the
first time they will evaluate, judge and most likely stereotype
you all in the first 3 minutes? That's right, all in the first 3
minutes! The first few minutes of meeting someone new are so
crucial, you must learn to make those minutes work FOR you, and
not against you. And since much of this judgment is based on
physical appearance and what is communicated in those first few
minutes, we can actually adjust our behavior to obtain better
results. Here are a few tips to help you achieve this.
Dress to Impress! How should you dress when meeting someone for
the first time? You should wear a well put together outfit, you
will look great and portray more confidence. So first, always
wear clothes that fit the occasion. You don't want to meet
someone at a fancy restaurant in jeans and a t-shirt when the
other person is dressed to kill. Second, always wear a well
coordinated outfit that fits you well. Show off a bit of your
curves or muscle. By looking clean and stylish you show that you
care about your appearance and how you portray yourself. Believe
me, people will take notice. When meeting someone for the first
time especially in those first 3 minutes image is everything.
When ever you go out you should take the time to look your best.
After all you never know when you might run into the Date Of
Your Dreams. And remember to accessorize, a new belt or nice
watch. Accessories really do make a big difference to an outfit
and to your look. People will respond to the image you project,
basically if you look like a bum, you will be treated like a
bum. So if you want to have more sex appeal, wear something that
makes you feel sexy. If you want to have more control, wear
something that make you feel like you have authority. Once you
have the wardrobe for your desired image consider the other
behaviors that attribute to your personal persona. Be aware of
your physical gestures, how you make eye contact etc. What ever
you wear be sure to show good taste. The outfit can portray any
image you wish, relaxed, retro or professional but you must look
clean and it must be done in good taste.
Grooming: Guys today's women will take notice of everything to
do with your grooming habits. Things like has he showered, hair
washed and styled? Are his clothes clean, does he smell nice?
And, all these little things really do matter to most women. And
ladies, many guys today care about the very same things. They
want their date to look hot with freshly washed and styled hair,
nice clothes and smell pretty. So before you go out on that date
be sure to take some extra time getting ready. Show your date
you care about your appearance. Make sure you have showered,
brushed your teeth, cleaned your nails, and wear nice
perfume/cologne. Showing you care about your appearance and will
greatly improve your chances for success!
Fit As A Fiddle: Now you don't have to be a buffed body builder,
but you should make an effort to stay fit. And , not just for
your own health. Exercise not only makes you look good, but it
will make you feel great as well. Also, that trimmer waist line
will do wonders for increasing your energy helping you to go All
Night Long with your date. When someone looks good, carries
themselves well and has good posture it's an indication of a
good lover - both in men and women.
Individuality: People love those who are unique, someone with
individuality. Do a self-analysis of yourself, what quality (or
qualities) do you possess that makes you different, one of a
kind.. Then draw attention to that quality. Do you drive a car
that is different, is your jewelry different. Something small
like wearing a hat will give you individuality, it will make you
stand out from the crowd. For fun try wearing a stetson or
fedora, then watch to see what kind of reaction you get.
Self-Confidence: You must appear to be confident in your every
move. Having self-confidence is some thing you can learn. Even
if you are not too confident right now you can pretend to be.
Yes, that's right pretend to be. To appear to be confident,
always look people in the eyes when speaking to them. Breath
normally, and speak in a slow controlled manner. Don't fidget.
And when the other person speaks, give all your attention to
them. I know this can be difficult at first, but the more you
practice the easier it will get. Trust me.
Show Respect: Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If
you show the Date of your Dreams that he/she is important to
you, that what he/she has to say is important to you, you will
be easily in their good graces. You do this by being attentive.
Make sure your date is comfortable, and content. Give
compliments, find the thing that others would miss and
compliment that. Really listen during your conversations. Simply
admire the person you are with, show respect, make him/her feel
good about his/herself and the Date of your Dreams will always
want to be around you.
Humor: If you can make someone laugh, you will often be able to
win their heart as well. Don't be too serious, relax and have
some fun. Laugh out loud and your Dream Date with laugh along
with you. Be happy, be funny, and love life.
Good Luck! Marie Clare Relationship Consultant & Author