Mother's Day is the day when sons, daughters and husbands buy gifts and flowers to recognize the incredible work mom has done raising the children. But some moms are unknowingly cheating themselves out of the full experience of Mother's Day. Many moms treat Mother's Day as a completely external experience when Mother's Day could be about so much more than just the well-deserved flowers and gifts.
Just Gifts & Flowers May Not Make Mother's Day Special
All the gifts and flowers in the world will not make Mother's Day special unless you, Mom, are making Mother's Day a truly special day. Make this Mother's Day a truly special Mother's Day by recapturing that wonderful feeling of anticipation you felt before your child's birth and that incredible feeling of elation you felt when your child was born. Embrace the feelings you felt when you held your baby for the first time. And then reflect upon the special moments you felt as your child developed into the wonderful son or daughter you have today. Do you feel that welling up of emotion when you think about your child in this way? Feels good; doesn't it?
Make This Mother's Day Special by Sharing Your Feelings
Now that you have these special feelings on Mother's Day, share them with your child. If your child lives too far away to visit, then experience these memories and feelings as you speak with your child on the phone. If your child is close enough to visit, then recapture these feelings while you are with them. Tell your child how you felt as you prepared for their arrival and how you felt on that incredible day when they were born. Then tell your child about the special childhood memories you cherish and why those memories are so special to you. End the conversation by telling your child how much you love who they have become and how they have made your life so much more complete.
This Mother's Day Will Have More Meaning When You Share Your Feelings
By experiencing Mother's Day in this way, you may feel you are doing all the work when this day is supposed to be the day you don't lift a finger. But experiencing Mother's Day in this way will give back far more than you give. You will feel so alive this Mother's Day that the gifts and flowers will have more meaning for you and your children. You will remember what is important in life. You will make this Mother's Day a truly special Mother's Day by experiencing it both inside and out.
Lisa Dunning is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Specializing in Parent/Child Relationship issues and author of "Good Parents Bad Parenting: How To Parent Together When Your Parenting Styles Are Worlds Apart".
Lisa Dunning is a columnist for Las Vegas Family Magazine & Los Angeles Family Magazine and provides expert relationship and parenting advice for television and radio programs throughout the country.
To learn more about Lisa Dunning, her parenting book and other services, visit her website at http://www.LisaDunningMFT.com