Secrets for Powerful Women -- How to find and KEEP a man

Ultra-successful women can be a powerhouse in a relationship just as they are in the boardroom. They may refuse to let a guy open the car door (or any door for that matter), or pay for dinner. They are successful in many areas of their lives, and capable of making great things happen in the world -- but when you are out on a date, why the heck does they have to act, you know, so much like you! What happens to the dating dynamic when a man meets and begins dating a woman who displays more male (Martian) than female (Venusian) qualities? Some women believe they can attract a man by acting toward him the way that they would like him to act toward her. These women mistakenly approach their relationships the way that they want to be approached by men. They are repelled by the thought of a needy man, so they are very careful not to need a man themselves. They will loudly acknowledge that they are self-sufficient and do not need anyone. These women are surprised to hear that their self-reliant attitude does not make them attractive. While they may initially attract men with their confidence and responsible nature, the end result will be that she does not let him pursue her and he doesn't get what he needs in the relationship. She has no appreciation for what he has to offer and he will not waste much time waiting for her to shift her attitude. Modern women have become so responsible for themselves that it is no longer obvious why they need a man. Sometimes, the more successful and responsible a woman is, the less inviting to a man she becomes. Because savvy women have realized that being needy is definitely a turn-off, sometimes they go overboard and act overly aggressive in response to a man's attentions. They may start to play the same games men play: they pull back, they don't call, and they become indecisive and indifferent toward the relationship. Women today are looking for a new kind of relationship, certainly not the kind that their parents may have had. They need to learn new skills to achieve the kind of equality and open communication that they want in a relationship. Many successful women have learned to be assertive in the work world, and carry that dominant behavior into the dating world, with less than positive results. They simply haven't yet learned the art of being assertive and feminine. Men are attracted to women who can be pleased. When a man is attracted to a woman, he gets excited because he anticipates that he can make her happy and that, in turn, makes him feel really good; it brings out the best of him. A man is excited by the thought of winning a woman over -- he wants to make her happy. Men feel successful and fulfilled in a relationship when she responds favorably to his pursuit and the things that he does for her. It is very important to him that a woman let a man know that she appreciates all of the little things that he does for her. Powerful women must develop the following three attributes to ensure success in the dating arena: * Self-assurance: A self-assured woman exudes an air of grace and trust. She respects herself and is respected by the man in her life. She assumes that a man will support her when she needs it. She gets what she needs and does not have to do it all by herself. * Receptivity: A receptive woman is able to be flexible and flow around obstacles in dating situations. She does not expect to get more from the relationship than her partner is able to give, and she does not become resentful when she feels that a particular situation is not bringing her what she wants. She is open to finding the good in any circumstance. Receptivity also allows a woman to get what she wants in a relationship without feeling like she has to give more than she is ready to give. She may not always agree with her man, but she will still express an attitude of love and trust. * Responsiveness: A responsive woman lets a man know that he is making her happy. She sends clear, authentic, and positive messages that he is pleasing her. In fact, if a woman is not pleased, it is best for her to give no response so that he will not be discouraged from continuing to pursue her. Men thrive in a relationship when they feel needed and appreciated. Powerful women can build a fulfilling relationship with a man, as long as they are careful not to overpower his attempts to pursue and please. Men do want a woman who is self-assured; they simply want her to appreciate all of the little things that he is willing to do make her happy. To learn how you can apply these techniques to your relationship contact a Mars Venus Coach. Mars Venus Coaches are experts in working with women and helping them to get what they want from their relationships without having to compromise their values. To learn more visit us on the web at http://www.askmarsvenus.com