The Ugliness of Low Self Confidence!
How fine life would be if we all felt like a million dollars 24
hours a day,7 days a week! We would never, ever feeling like we
have woken up in a pit, full of self confidence lows, having the
energy to just jump out of bed and meet the day with loads of
enthusiasm and knowing that we are going to get through the day
without worries of any kind. The sun will shine all day, with
just enough breeze to keep our bodies cool. Life is good, oh so
good.
NOT if you are a person imprisoned by low self confidence, it
so is not. Low self confidence is a very nasty characteristic to
have inside us. It makes us feel weak. It makes us lose faith in
our actions and dreams. It can even stop us from going forward
in our lives with relationships. It allows so many ugly negative
thoughts to take hold of our minds. Some will even try to escape
this gripping emotion through the comfort they feel in their
eating patterns. Some begin to trust the emotion that creates
mistrust, in order to derail their thinking, only setting them
up for a history of jealous explosions.
We begin to act selfish, constantly thinking that every action
made is directed at us in some negative way or that we are the
butt end of the joke when we see people laughing and happen to
be looking our way. We feel that we are being compared with
others. We feel we cannot ever do anything right. We see
negative in every word that is said about us. We want to share
our pain and loneliness, so that everyone around us can feel
equally sad. We become habitual riders on the roller coaster of
self-pity. We want to be the only person in the world with any
good qualities. We want our partners to see only us and desire
only us. We want our partners to only have fun when we are
around them. We do not allow ourselves to have fun because we
are allowing our selfish habit of low confidence to stand in our
way. Notice all the WE`s in this paragraph.
Our negative trap is working well, isn`t it? The trap of low
self confidence is what will trigger all the lows in our
emotions such as: low self-esteem, low energy levels, low sexual
desires, low positive thinking, low care in personal hygiene,
low desires in life period.
Imagine watching a movie, and in this movie there is a person
trying to get through life struggling with all the WE`s that I
have just described to you. Would you not be thinking, or if you
are like me yelling, at them to STOP? Would you not be thinking
of ways to help them? Weird isn`t it? The person in that movie
is you, all you have to do is step outside of yourself, and your
ability to fix all of those WE`s is so simple. We always think
that we look funny in pictures, but when we look at other people
in pictures, we do not criticize them or pick them apart. Well
neither does anyone do that to our picture. We are our worst
enemy when we allow low self confidence to take priority in our
minds.
How does one fight this horrible war against ones self? Habits
are a very, very good way. I have done articles on habits many
times. Hmm. Wonder why? Probably because it is through creating
positive thinking habits that we can drowned out the negative
stuff that controls are world of peace and happiness. I am not
saying it will happen over night. I am not saying that it will
happen after one time of defeating the negative. What I am
saying is that the more we feel that we are just as special as
anyone else in the world, or ask ourselves, will this issue that
is causing me so much pain and agony mean anything tomorrow? If
this is my last day on earth, do I want to spend it like this?
Try to feel like you are all new every morning. Nothing that
happened yesterday will defeat our day today. What may seem so
devastating in that second, really is only because we are
allowing it to feel that way. Changing your track is a very
important thing. I don't care what you have to think about in
order to do that, just do it. Think about anything to get your
mind to change. Eventually the your mind will do that on its
own. Yes, it's all habits and only you can do this. This is
something you must do for you. Your self respect will guide you
and give you strength. The higher you build your self
confidence, the stronger all of you becomes. Then you will be
able to defeat all of the negative emotions that fight to
control your thinking. Do this for you. It's no different than
quiting smoking, exercising, taking care of yourself, even
cosmetic surgery. All of these changes can and should only be
done with your best interest as your goal. No one else really
cares in the end. How you live your life and find happiness is
totally up to you, so kick low self confidence in the BUTT!
I know that if you really want something, you can and will get
it. That's a fact my sweet people! Make the WE syndrome turn
into a non selfish WE. Think of everything and everyone around
you as a positive element that you need to create your positive
habits. As I have said so many times: If only we lived in a
perfect world!
********************************* "You, yourself, as much as
anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
-Buddha
********************************** "Every day I live I am more
convinced that the waste of life lies in the love we have not
given, the powers we have not used, the selfish prudence that
will risk nothing and which, shirking pain, misses happiness as
well."
-Anonymous
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