The Power of Self-Esteem!
Why are there so many women haunted by a low self-esteem ?
I have shared many thoughts through out my blogs on feelings,
jealousy, worries, fears, and self-esteem. Every day I receive
mail from all over the world from women suffering from a lack of
inner power to get through the day, due to a low self-esteem. It
does not only affect their relationships at home, it also
follows them into their work place, where they are being
suffocated from a lack of confidence. In a work place the power
of self-esteem needs to be high so that ones confidence can
guide them through actions such as: important decision making,
dealings with an opposite sex boss, office politics, other staff
members trying to gain on your efforts, talking to clients or
customers on the phone or in person, dealing with rejection
regarding your work, and even things as simple as fitting into
the social side of your job (making friends). People deal with
this everyday, and when they are suffering inside, their power
of self-esteem is definitely very low. Then they still have to
deal with the rest of their day. It's no wonder the corner bar
looks like a nice hide-away. There are two parts to the meaning
of the power of self-esteem:
1: self-acceptance, which is an appreciation of ones worth as a
human being.
2: self-confidence, the knowing that you are competent enough to
use your gifts to their fullest.
To have the power of self-esteem, one must be able to feel both
emotions in a positive manner. Through ones life, they have
learned through negative experiences to doubt themselves, to
fear criticism and ridicule. They have also learned to cut
themselves down at a glance of someone else they deem to be
richer, prettier, or smarter. They eventually lose the power of
self-esteem. We can run through our past, over and over and over
again. We can bang our heads on the wall, we can create eating
disorders in ourselves, we can cut up our bodies just to feel
something, or we can even turn away from everyone we love and
cherish for fear they may just find that one tiny keyhole to
unlock our self-pity trap we are in. We can do just about
anything to not find the strength to gain back the power of
self-esteem. It is after all the easy road to take, is it not?
To fail, to cry out for sympathy, to get attention, even if it
is the wrong attention. I have learned one very important thing
in all my work through helping women gain the power of
self-esteem, no matter how many times you see someone prettier,
skinnier, richer, taller, smarter, happier, better spoken, or
with a colgate smile you envy, the sun will come up tomorrow
with or without you. Your worries and self-pity caused by your
weakness to control the power of self-esteem that is inside of
you. It is waiting to be used as the gift that you were born
with. You can spend hours hurting and suffering inside because
you are not, or cannot be who you think you should have been.
You must stop allowing yourself to feel threatened by the world.
When your mind feels threatened, it will automatically react to
protect you. This is where your thoughts and your actions
collide. Confusion becomes part of your thinking now and this is
when the negative emotions take over fast and furious. Into the
pit, you go. The ability to shift your focus to positive mental
thoughts during stress is the most important link needed to
escape any emotional trap we fall into. The power of self-esteem
is all about your first thought and how you deal with it. It is
at that split second that you have to decide to think positively
or just plain toss it out of your head. Tossing negative
thoughts is something I have mentioned before,"HABITS". Your
goal is to offset the mind-body reaction to the stresses we are
constantly forced to deal with through society. The power of
self-esteem can be gained if you really want it. I know that I
have filled my website and my articles with everything from A-Z
on steps to get you there. Women are still in constant belief
that only over weight woman, or not so pretty woman (by
society`s standards) are at risk of losing the power of
self-esteem. Again I repeat this over and over, please read
,"Why Do Pretty Girls Cry". It's all there. I speak of the
pretty girls, and society`s way of convincing you that only ugly
girls cry. I know that is a harsh statement, but I am trying to
get through to every person on earth that the power of
self-esteem is in each and everyone of us. We are all born with
it. Yes we all have our reasons for our weaknesses. OK, now that
we know that, lets move on. How can we fight off the negative
thoughts that bring us down? Through my thoughts in my website
and blogs, you can educate yourself and learn to improve your
thinking habits. It is possible, but not easy at all. That is
the reason so many of you fail to gain the power of self-esteem.
You have no consistent learning strength. You fear anything that
takes time and dedication. Then why is it that you will search
endlessly through every search engine for ways to get you
through this hell you are in, pay a nonsensical amount of money
to a therapist to tell you what you already know, cut yourself,
or make your body suffer through eating disorders, not to
mention put yourself and your friends in so much turmoil over
your inability to create better mind over matter habits? Can you
see what I see there? I see that you do have the power of
self-esteem. You do have the patience, the will and the strength
to shine. You do not need to worry about anything. You choose to
worry and you allow the negative thoughts. Ask yourself the next
time you feel threatened, "If I do not stop this negative
thought, will it change who I am, or make me that of which I
envy?" NOT and NO!!!!! Please realize this, only you are
suffering in that pit. Only you are losing out on all the smiles
that life has right at your reach. You are in control of your
happiness. You can toss off all those comments or remarks. You
can turn your back on someones else's weakness or problems that
may cause you to feel less than who you really are. Let them
suffer in their own stupidity. No one can threaten you, but you.
Do this also when you feel the challenge of negative versus
positive thinking:
BREATHE DEEPLY
IDENTIFY THE NEGATIVE
NOW THINK THE POSITIVE
ACT UPON IT
BREATHE AGAIN DEEPLY
PAT YOURSELF FOR WINNING THAT WAR
NOW SMILE
YOU NOW HAVE, "THE POWER OF SELF-ESTEEM!
Trust me here, the more you create this habit, my friends, the
easier it becomes. Like anything else worth having in life, it
is not going to come easy, but it does come and it is oh so
sweet!!!!!!
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"You cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying over your head,
but you can stop them from building their nests in your hair."
-Chinese Proverb
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