Dating Tip for Women: Don't Work Too Hard
Remember Jerry Hall, the model who married Mick Jagger? Jerry
was famous for making this statement:
"My mother said it was simple to keep a man. You must be a maid
in the living room, a cook in the kitchen, and a whore in the
bedroom."
I don't know about you, but if keeping a man meant all that
work, I'd have stayed single.
In addition to that pearl of wisdom, Ms. Hall offered this one:
"Even if you have only two seconds, drop everything and give him
(oral sex). That way he won't really want sex with anyone else."
Poor Jerry. Too bad her mother didn't tell her that if a man
tends to want sex with "anyone else," he's not great husband
material.
Sadly, despite all her hard work, Mick Jagger continued to have
sex with other people and fathered a child with another model
during his marriage to Hall. They are now divorced. So much for
keeping a man!
The point? No guy is worth running yourself ragged for. Instead
of appreciating your efforts, he will likely take you for
granted and come to resent you. Think about it: Do you fall for
guys who are at your beck and call all the time? They're great
for helping you move, but you probably wouldn't marry one.
All right. Let's say you decide to move in with a guy. Before
you run out to Bed Bath & Beyond, it's absolutely imperative
that you talk to your boyfriend about sharing household chores.
It's not romantic, but you'll save yourself much misery in the
end. And whatever you do, don't get off on the wrong foot by
cooking dinner every night and doing his laundry.
Resist any and all impulses to "wife and mother" the guy.
Otherwise, he'll take you for granted, or even worse, marry you
and expect you to be his servant for the rest of your life. And
that's definitely not romantic!
Allow a man to cook for you for a change. Let him do your
laundry every now and then. There's no reason to expect him to
be your maid in the living room, cook in the kitchen, or whore
in the bedroom, but every once in a while it wouldn't hurt.
Remember: You have a lot to offer (if you don't believe me, take
out a pen and paper and write down a list of the qualities that
make you special; emphasize things like your sense of humor,
leave off your ability to fold a fitted sheet).
Don't let a guy do you any favors. Keep this in mind: You're a
great girl, and he'd be lucky to have you.