Understanding Body Language
Understanding Body Language:
Your body language - a huge range of unconscious physical
movements - can either strengthen communication or damage it.
Even if you are sitting completely still, you may be unknowingly
communicating a powerful message about your real feelings.
1) Reading Body Language
Because of its subtle and range, body language is difficult to
read - and control. However, a broad understanding of body
language is one route to understanding the real opinions of
others. For instance, if people are inwardly feeling
uncomfortable because that are lying, their awkward body
language will betray the lie.
A) Communicating By Body Language
Posture is all-important in body language. On a first meeting,
depending on the posture that you assume, you would create
different impressions. The positive posture might have the best
effect on the out come by encouraging open communication, while
the negative one would make communication difficult.
The following are three different types of postures:
I) Positive
Body facing front and open posture shows confidence
Hands on the hips shows determination and ability to take control
Direct gaze and a broad smile show friendly attention
ii) Neutral
Direct gaze shows attention
Relaxed arms and legs show lack of tension
iii) Negative
Indirect gaze is evasive
Ear - pulling indicates doubt
Body turned away signifies rejection of what the other person is
saying
Slight slumping shows lack of confidence
Note: When standing with people, leave a personal space of about
1m (3ft)
2) Conquering Nerves
The nervousness people feel before making a presentation or
attending an interview is very natural. Their minds prepare them
for action via their nervous system, so nervousness is due in
part to glands pumping the hormone adrenaline into their blood.
Use body language to appear more confident than feel by making a
conscious effort to smile and to relax your arms. Look people in
the eye while you are talking or listening to them, keep your
posture comfortably strait and do not fiddle with your hands.
Take a slow, deep breath to relax yourself, if you are feeling
tense.
3) Keeping Your Distance
Leaving an acceptable distance between people is part of body
language, and this distance changes depending on situation. For
instance, guest at a social gathering stand closer to each other
than strangers in a non-social situation. Always take care not
to intrude into another's personal territory in case you arouse
defensive or hostile reactions.
4) Creating An Impression
First impressions are very important. It is thought that the
initial five seconds of a meeting are more important than the
next five minutes, so attention to detail can make a huge
difference. Think about grooming and appropriate clothing, and
err on conservative side. Even if an informal look is required,
ensure your garments and shoes are in impeccable condition.
Before going into a meeting, check your appearance in a mirror
to make sure that your hair is tidy.
Making an Impact
A) Untidy
Messy hair
Crumpled T-shirt
Slovenly stance
Dirty shoes
B) Smart
Neat hair
Upright posture
Neatly buttoned jacket
Shining shoes.
Cultural Differences
Britons and Americans tend to leave more personal space around
them then other nationalities, and are more likely to move away
if they feel like their space is being invaded. People who live
in rural areas may also stand further apart than city dwellers
Manik Thapar http://www.careerpath.cc