"Effects Of Divorce; What Should You Consider When You're
Thinking About Divorce?"
More often than not people decide to get a divorce before they
really think about the effects of divorce. People usually decide
to get a divorce based on emotion rather than logic which can
hinder their long term happiness. Still, there are those that
make their decision about getting a divorce by taking into
account the effects that divorce can have on everyone involved.
Some effects of divorce can be positive depending on your
situation even though 'divorce' is usually seen in a negative
light. The effects of divorce are far too many to list here so
let's concentrate on effects of divorce that seem most apparent
and that address making a decision about divorce.
Obviously one of the most common effects of divorce is how the
divorce will change the money flow for the people involved in
the divorce. A change in cash flow affects the freedom we have
and it can change the lifestyle we have. A change in housing,
work, travel, shopping, etc., make people stop and think about
how deeply "money" will have on their life after divorce. While
a "change in money flow" is a consideration and a true hard
effect of divorce, there's other effects that might carry
greater weight in the decision making process.
An effect of divorce that some people need to consider is the
change that children will need to go through if a divorce
occurs. Children can be strong during this time, but it is up to
the parents to make sure the transition is as painless as
possible. Some people actually stay in unhappy marriages solely
because of the fact that there are children involved. The change
children go through as an effect of divorce is complex...if you
are curious as to how to ensure this transition is as painless
as possible for your children, educate yourself and possibly
seek professional advice.
'"Fear", as an effect of divorce?'
Yes, fear is a real live effect that divorce can have on some
people. Fear of loss...fear of the unknown...fear of lack of
self confidence...fear of change...fear of a depreciation in
emotional health...etc. The list goes on and on. Combating fear
is a difficult thing to do but in conquering fear you will be
one step further to your goal of emotional health.
Not all seemingly negative things or events in life are truly
100% negative. If you've been divorced, are currently going
through a divorce, or are deciding about getting a divorce, you
have a rare opportunity to use the experience to grow
emotionally and increase your inner-strength.
The effects of divorce and how you label them (positively or
negatively) will be determined by how you act while going
through the divorce and what your focus is after the divorce is
over. You should want to look back and identify the positive
effects of divorce as they pertain to your own situation. Having
"positive self reflection" when the dust settles is a goal that,
if attained, will make you feel good about yourself. When you're
looking back on the experience of divorce or the decision
process of divorce, you want to be able to answer the following
question positively. "Did I grow emotionally and personally
during this tumultuous time?" The effects of divorce are far
reaching...look inward and plan accordingly.