American Wedding Practices
Living in the US makes one feel free to do anything, free to
live, free to love, free from traditions. And while this is
true, there are still many practices done during wedding that
renders this memorable event with a distinct American touch.
Here are some of them:
Starting from the engagement, Americans can think of unique ways
to personalize their wedding. As there really isn't any
engagement tradition, the more unique the marriage proposal is
done, the better.
For most wedding preparations, the engaged couple visits their
parents to notify them of their recent engagement.
At times, the engaged couple hosts an engagement party. The
engagement party costs less than a wedding reception since most
of the time, the menu will only include cocktails and hors
d'oeuvres. Therefore, if the couple is on a tight budget, they
can just invite more guests to the engagement party if they plan
to limit the number of guests during the wedding.
Most wedding preparations have a bridal shower given by the maid
of honor and the bridesmaids. The groom may also have a bachelor
party the night before the wedding but he has to be careful not
to drink too much.
Wedding invitations should include response cards to quickly
inform the couple whether the person has accepted or declined
the invitation. The wedding invitations should also be sent
within four to six weeks before the event.
Usually, there is a rehearsal dinner in which the wedding party
and guests came from far places to be present at the wedding
attend. It was the practice that the groom's parents pay for
this dinner.
A bridal luncheon may be hosted for the bride's attendants
during the wedding day. However, time constraint may not permit
this to be part of the schedule for the wedding day. Likewise,
the groom may also host a groom's dinner for his groomsmen.
Interestingly, even if the couple is not very religious, they
still prefer a religious ceremony. However, this may pose a
problem since in America people of different faiths and
religious backgrounds get married.
Even if there are few people who believe in bad luck, some
couples still make sure that the groom does not see his bride
until she starts waking on the aisle.
It is still practiced that the groom and his groomsmen enter the
church through a side door. The bride will then walk down the
aisle with her father. In some cases when both her father and
stepfather brought up the bride, she may ask them both to escort
her.
During a formal reception, there is usually a bridal table where
the couple and the attendants sit. Also, food and drinks should
be served as the guests appear at the reception.
Before, gift giving used to depend on what the guest will feel
useful for the couple. Now, it is better to register for gifts
so the guests will know what to bring that the couple will need.
Upon receiving an engagement or wedding gift, it is better to
send a thank you note apart from saying "thank you" to the
giver. This should be sent within two weeks upon receipt of the
gift. Make a personalized thank you note, instead of using an
impersonal generic thank you note.
These are just some of the many American practices during
weddings. Whether one chooses to this or prefers to have a very
different wedding, what's more imperative is that American's
still believe in the wedding vow, "For better or worse, 'til
death do us part."