Romance Regulations
You know that you want to make your relationship with your
spouse special and romance is the ideal way to do that. Romance
keeps the passion and love alive in any relationship, but just
like most good things romance comes with a few rules in order to
make it work. Romance can be planned or spontaneous and both are
perfectly acceptable. Spontaneous romance is almost always
wonderful because both you and your spouse are often caught up
in the moment and you are both sharing an intimate experience
together. It is often when you plan romance that mistakes can be
made if you aren't aware of the rules of romance.
The first and probably most important rule of romance is that
your relationship should always come first in your life. While
this may be a difficult concept for those who have put so much
time and effort into your career, but when you are retired and
cuddling with your spouse on the front porch you probably won't
be wishing you had spent more time at work. Everything in your
life should be an outpouring from your relationship. Everything
you do should be because of your marriage and the love you share
with your spouse. When considering this idea, be sure not to
mistake it with being the one in your relationship who must
always suffer for the sake of principle. That can only hurt your
relationship. A good marriage consists of two people who always
support and encourage each other.
When you bring romance into your relationship, it is crucial
that you understand it is your spouse who defines what is
romantic. You can give her chocolates, flowers and jewelry until
you are broke, but it won't do a thing for your marriage if she
doesn't like chocolate, flowers and jewelry. The same goes for
wives giving to husbands. Pay attention to his or her likes and
dislikes. There's no point in cooking a special meal all day
long if he's got a craving for chicken wings.
When two people get married and their lives grow together, there
seems to be less and less opportunity for spontaneity. This
isn't a bad thing! Planning is simply creating the opportunity.
Plan out a week or even an entire month of romance. Plan your
Anniversary celebration. Plan a surprise night out on the town.
The element of surprise is just as good as spontaneity. In fact,
it's probably better. You spent time putting thought and effort
into your gesture. Impulsive is great, but planned can be better.
Romance doesn't always mean presenting gifts. Gifts are
wonderful gestures, especially if they are something he or she
can truly appreciate but they cannot compensate for some of the
more important romantic gestures in a relationship- special time
with each other. Special time with each other doesn't mean going
out and doing things each weekend. Spending times together on
the sofa or not rushing through dinner and enjoy each other's
company is very romantic. Give it a try and you'll see how
romantic simple time together can truly be!