Prepare to Pace Yourself
It might seem quite exciting to have all kinds of romantic ideas
and suggestions floating through your head at this point, but it
is important to remember that romance can't be rushed or piled
on all at once. If it is, all of the intentions behind every
move will be lost or misinterpreted. It is important to keep in
mind that romance is best when you don't misrepresent yourself
or who you are to your spouse, you always start with the basics
and you move forward a single step at a time.
If you change your mental attitude so that you can commit
yourself to creating romance in your marriage, you can make just
about anything romantic. As difficult as it might seem, with the
right mindset you can make cleaning the toilet a romantic task.
On the other hand, without a committed romantic attitude, you
can take a beautiful stroll on a moonlit beach and turn it into
an unhappy and uncomfortable experience.
You must have some sort of feelings for your spouse or you
wouldn't be interested in improving your marriage by adding
romance. Romance is simply about taking action on how you feel
towards your spouse. Because love is a feeling, your spouse
can't see the proof in the emotion because it is something that
isn't tangible and can be seen or touched. You feel the love for
your spouse and the romance is the action that comes about as a
result of that love. Romance will start as a new attitude with
the right intentions, but it must grown beyond. It must be able
to show your spouse how much you love him or her through actions
in words, presents, gentle caresses and more.
Once you become a beginning romantic and you are well into your
romantic thought processes, you will find that your spouse is
truly appreciative of all the little things that you do for him
or her. It's the small things you've added to your daily lives
like making sure he or she knows their loved before anything
else is said or the phone call for no particular reason other
than to tell them that they are on your mind. These small
actions tend to stay with the other person longer and have more
of an impact than expensive, materialistic gifts.
Most marriages suffer from a bland and generic form of romance
born of obligation. These couples honor Valentine's Day,
birthdays and anniversaries only because it is necessary if they
want to be able to sleep in their own bed that night. Special
marriages that others find enviable take advantage of a rarer
form of romance that is practiced as more of an option than an
obligation. These couples choose to be romantic not because they
have to, but because they want to. While they still honor the
'obligatory' special days, all of the other days are just as
special because they have made them that way with each other.