Is Bigger Really Better?
When you got married, you said the words of commitment we all
know so well about for better or worse, for richer or for poorer
and so on. Those words are wonderfully inspiring, but real life
sometimes make those vows seem as if they are mocking couples
after they've been married for several years. The vows aren't
the problem because they are simply defining true commitment.
What becomes difficult is keeping the love and romance alive in
a marriage.
If you can think back to the first year you and your spouse were
dating (or weeks for some!) before getting married, try and
recall how overwhelming that feeling of love was for that
person. When you remember, try to think about doing something so
huge that it reflects the amount of love you once felt and
continue to feel for your spouse.
When thinking about what you can do to express how you feel
towards your spouse, think as big as you can while considering
financial restrictions. You won't need to use baby steps when
trying to be romantic. When it comes to showing your love and
commitment in any marriage, bigger is ALWAYS better.
You know the big cardboard box that the new appliance was
delivered in? You remember because it caused some financial
strain between you and your spouse. It was also a source of
conflict because you both had something different in mind when
picking it out. Take the big cardboard box and make a card out
of it. Simply cut out two of the larger sides keeping the
natural fold as the center of your card, tape or glue paper bags
to cover up and unwanted wording on the outside and make the
biggest card he or she will ever receive. The sentiment is up to
you, as you know best what he or she needs to hear.
Make a jumbo sized banner for your love. Tape construction paper
together or you can order a banner just by doing a quick search
on the Internet. Try to make your banner at least 12 feet long
and decorate it yourself. You can get stencils at your local
craft store if your handwriting simply won't compliment your
effort.
Have you every seen your local high school(s) holding
fundraisers? You can offer your local high school's marching
band, choir or other entertainment ensemble a donation in order
to serenade your spouse at home. Imagine the surprise on your
spouse's face when he or she hears their favorite song playing
live from the front yard! If you go for something this big, make
sure you remember to videotape it so that you can relive it over
and over again.
You don't have to be dramatic or especially outrageous in order
to pull off a big, loving gesture for your spouse. Even the most
reserved and quiet person can find it in them to put a banner
together or cut some cardboard for the one that they love. Many
people who have already enjoyed the results of their efforts
proudly display their "big" romantic gift permanently in their
home or they placed it securely in a safe place.