Marriage
Many questions arise in connection with this subject. Should the
wife obey her husband? What should be the attitude toward an
unbelieving partner in marriage? These and many related
questions arise from time to time as people seek to find some
set of rules by which to live the Christian life.
In the first place, we do not have detailed laws today as did
the Jews. We have to find for ourselves the good works which
were before ordained that we should walk in them. The secret of
success in the Christian life is to make ourselves available to
and for Christ so that He can work thru us.
Nowhere does it say that the wife should obey the husband. She
is to voluntarily submit. God has said so. We must take it that
this is the best course to follow. Who are we to question God?
But God also has a purpose for everything He says and does. We
need to be on the watch for what may be the reason.
There is a mystery spoken of in Ephesians 5:32. Some, who are
not careful in their reading, read into this that the church
which is the body of Christ is the bride of Christ. The Word
nowhere mentions a bride of Christ. The unity expressed by the
husband and wife being one flesh manifests the unity of Christ
and His church. This is the theme in this passage.
Since the church is today manifesting the manifold wisdom of God
to principalities and powers in the heavenlies (Ephesians 3:10),
how well this perfect relationship of husband and wife sets that
wisdom forth. It is indeed a mystery that husband and wife are
one flesh, no longer two.
Not only is the wife to submit, but the husband is to love. This
gives a practical exposition of the unity of the one body of
Christ.
In this relationship where the wife is never told to obey,
children and servants are to obey. But the parents have a
responsibility toward the children, and the master should be
careful with the servant. He also has a Master! To the world,
and also to the unseen powers, the Christian home can be a
manifestation of the one body and show that it does touch the
earth in its walk.
These truths also give new motive and zest to the family
relationships. All the members of the family can feel that their
duties and relationships reach right up into heavenly places
where their citizenship is. Let the husband remember that his
love, even though it be to an unsubmissive wife, shows forth the
love of Christ for His church. And the wife, by being
submissive, even to an unloving husband, can be a model of the
church which is the body of Christ.
The obedience of the children, even as the Lord was subject to
His parents (until 30 years old!), can add to this harmony and
witness. And parents can also show forth the love of the Father
in heaven by loving and bringing up the children in the nurture
and admonition of the Lord. Servants are to do service as unto
the Lord, making for greater harmony. And the master should be
careful with the servant, not mistreating or withholding wages.
Truly the home can be a great witness to truth. Let us all
remember that we are members of one another.