The 5 Secrets of "Keeping" Your Husband In Love With You
In medival times the 'keep' was the central tower that formed
the heart of the castle. It was the most defended area of a
castle. With that in mind, if we are to 'keep' our husband in
love with us, we need to always 'keep' our husbands needs close
to our heart and defend our relationship at all times.
We need to defend our marriage relationship by not allowing it
to fall into a boring routine, defending against affairs,
maintaining a healthy sex life, defending against being
critical, and spending regular, quality time with our husband.
SECRET #1 - DO NOT FALL INTO A BORING ROUTINE As we 'keep' our
relationship from falling into a boring routine, we will look
for opportunities to pamper and spoil our spouse. Simple acts of
thoughtfulness breed reciprocal acts of kindness.
These efforts don't have to be expensive or elaborate, a tender
note in a lunch box, a romantic note left on their wind shield,
a short e-mail with a compliment, a unique dinner place setting,
or a bedroom invitation written in soap on their mirror.
SECRET #2 - SHORE UP YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST AN AFFAIR The best
offense in warding off the intrusion of an affair is to have a
rewarding, satisfying marriage that meets the needs of both
partners. Affairs aren't about sex, they're about someones needs
going unmet.
These needs are usually emotional in nature, and ones that have
been subtlely expressed to their wife, but the plea went
unnoticed. Don't allow yourself to assume that your loving
feelings alone will sustain your marriage. It requires daily
acts of loving and listening to reinforce a marriage against the
intrusion of an affair.
SECRET #3 - 'KEEP' YOUR SEX LIFE STRONG Sex is a basic human
need and should take priority over other things in your
marriage. The sobering reality is that most spouses are more
vulnerable to flirtations and sexual advances from others when
their sex life is unhappy at home.
It's also critical to not only make time for sex but to have
open communication with your spouse about both of your sexual
needs. Ongoing intimacy keeps a relationships strong, thus, as
you maintain a healthy sex life your relationship will remain
strong.
SECRET #4 - REFRAIN FROM BEING CRITICAL It's easy to criticize
your husband for not being perfect while you ignore your own
imperfections. It's important to focus on what you can do and
give to your relationship rather than on whether or not your
spouse is putting forth an equal effort or has some
imperfections.
As you strive to improve who you are, you will become a more
happy, peaceful person and this will reflect upon your husband.
Not only will their imperfections appear to diminish, they will
make improvements as well.
SECRET #5 - SPEND TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND It's difficult to have
a successful marriage and experience true love without spending
at least one night a week together that is free from
distractions of family and work.
This doesn't have to be an expensive date each week, just time
together enjoying each others company and 'keeping' your
marriage strengthened.
As you put forth the effort to 'keep' your marriage strong, you
will be amazed at the depth of joy and happiness in your
marriage and how your relationship will flourish as it is
nourished with these 5 secrets.