The Key to Fitness Success
"If you and I want to change our behavior, there is only one
effective way to do it: we must link unbearable and immediate
sensations of pain to our old behavior, and incredible and
immediate sensations of pleasure to a new one." - Anthony
Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
Why isn't every person who wants to be fit and healthy
exercising on a consistent basis? If we know what we should be
doing, then why aren't we doing it consistently? Fitness
Motivation Coach Lisa Nordquist calls this "The Fitness Gap" and
many of us suffer from it.
Knowing that we SHOULD be exercising rarely makes any of us do
it on a consistent basis. So, how can we motivate ourselves to
practice optimal self care - which includes exercising and
eating right CONSISTENTLY? For those people who weren't born
loving exercise, it takes more than JUST DOING IT (at least at
first).
We start to practice optimal, and CONSISTENT, self care (even if
we find aspects of it painful at the beginning) through a
process I call Pain to Pleasure Conversion (PPC). So, as the
Robbins quote above suggests, we must find pleasure in what we
change our behavior to. But I think he misses a step in getting
there. Before we find pleasure in something, we must (even if
subconsciously) find MEANING in it.
So, the conversion begins with assigning MEANING to the very
concept of exercising. For some, examples of meaning can be
stress release, longevity, optimal health, strength development,
or even the pursuit of spirituality. Or it could be simply being
in a social setting or knowing that you're doing 'the right
thing'. The meaning that we assign to exercise gets us into the
gym and helps us TO BEGIN exercising (after all, how do we know
if it will give us pleasure if we don't try it first ... and, in
order to be motivated to try it in the first place, we must
assign meaning to it). But, finding exercise meaningful alone
won't lead you to do it consistently forever. Now, this is where
Robbins comes back into the equation.
The 'doing CONSISTENTLY' conversion is complete once the ACT of
exercising itself becomes pleasurable. For some, examples of
pleasure can be the 'pump' from lifting weights, 'runners high'
from running really long distances, or simply sweating.
Well, what about those of us, you ask, who have never
experienced that kind of pleasure from exercise? Most people who
don't find the process of exercising to be pleasurable, will
exercise occasionally, but not consistently enough to maximize
its benefits. If you can't stand to sweat or get frustrated by
your lack of strength or lack of endurance, how can you start
enjoying each and every workout? Who'd blame you?
So, how do we make this entire conversion happen so that we
start exercising consistently and make fitness a lifestyle
change, even for those of us who don't find exercising all that
pleasurable?
First, assign a meaning to exercise that is important to you.
Second, start making some progress towards what is meaningful to
you through exercising. Once you start getting the results you
want, the MEANS of getting those results (in this case,
exercising) will then start becoming pleasurable to you.
The Pain to Pleasure Conversion (PPC) Equation at Work An
example of the Pain to Pleasure Conversion at work can be
demonstrated through a series of "if/then" statements.
In the Beginning:
Weightlifting ("pain") = Don't DO*. *For example: "I don't lift
weights because I'm not very strong and get intimidated by the
weights at the gym. But, I want to reduce my stress and get
stronger."
So, if: Living a less stressful life/having strength = Meaning
And if: Weightlifting = Burns off stress/gives strength
Then: Weightlifting = Meaningful
Then, after I start lifting weights and getting stronger and
alleviating stress over time (i.e. progressing towards what is
meaningful to me) I might find that: Weightlifting = Pleasure
And if: Weightlifting = Pleasure
Then: I will lift weights CONSISTENTLY and start loving every
minute of it! And, if I start loving every minute of it, I will
do it consistently the rest of my life!!** **Because, as the
equation above shows, every single thing we do consistently in
life we find pleasure AND meaning in it ... somehow, some way.
I know this sounds a little black and white, but if you think
about it it's true. For example, you might say, well, I know
people who CONSISTENTLY complain about everything. Isn't that
oxymoronic? My response: absolutely not. That makes perfect
sense. I've known plenty of people who find intense pleasure in
complaining about everything. And so they do it ... all the
time!
So, by going through the PPC process, you can associate pleasure
with exercise and start CONSISTENTLY practicing optimal self
care the rest of your life even if it was once very painful for
you.
It's that simple. I've seen it work over and over again. In
fact, it has worked for me in my life and many of my clients. If
you struggle with exercising or eating 'right' consistently, try
PPC out and let me know how it goes.