JUST WANT TO WATCH?
If you've ever caught someone in the act, then you've certainly
felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being
there, and feeling what they were feeling.
Just talking about it makes me all excited.
So when you're swinging, what about looking at the scenery?
Well, that certainly has its place as well.
Opening Your Eyes
When you're first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost
too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I
was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe.
For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were
excited to see someone else being pleasured.
Just when you think you're not turned on by something, then you
try it and realize, wow, that's amazing.
I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to
watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we?
It's a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be
absolutely comfortable to watch someone else?
Very.
Will The Other Couple Mind?
If it's just you two and another couple, then you may want to
broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that it's
okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in
action.
You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself
as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time.
Most couples won't mind if you ask.
And if you're in a swingers club, it's almost guaranteed that
you're going to be seen if you start anything, so it's a free
for all for voyeurs.
Remembering to blink may be hard though.
What If We're Asked To Perform?
Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your
favourite erotic movie and you are the stars.
Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and
your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally
would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the
sighs out.
If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and
look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you
on, and how wonderful something feels.
Why Do You Look?
Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a
comfortable setting, you will see that it really isn't the size
that matters, but the confidence of the person.
Women aren't judged by their weight and men aren't seen for the
length of their penis. Men aren't counting another man's abs,
and women aren't considering the bounce of the breasts.
You look because you're curious, but you continue looking
because you can see the beauty in everyone.
In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will
want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural
and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and
getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an
erotic scene.