WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
The adventure of swinging varies for everyone, but there are
some general benefits that you can expect and should expect from
everyone involved.
Still, I have to point out that swinging isn't for everyone, so
don't take this list to a reluctant partner to try to sway them.
Of course, you may want to leave it out so that they can peruse
it at their own pace...
Confidence
As a woman, I can tell you that confidence isn't something that
comes naturally in terms of sexual activity. We're taught that
men are superior in this respect and that we should follow their
lead in everything.
When you start swinging, however, you are thrust into a realm of
being up front about your needs and your desires. It isn't all
about pleasing the man anymore, but it's about getting what you
crave, what you've dreamt in your mind.
Your confidence soars as you begin to find that you can be
sexual with someone that you're not used to and yet still
pleasure them, as well as yourself. Your partner will notice for
sure.
Body Image
Although this conversation is linked to women most of the time,
let's not forget about our men. While media and celebrity news
make us believe that all women should be a certain size, men are
equally as judged.
Men see ripped abs and chiselled cheekbones, and quietly think
to themselves if they're all that good too? Are their penises
big enough?
When you've been with your partner for a while, you may fall
into a sense of comfort about what you look like. They love you
and that's all that matters. When you begin swinging, that
self-assuredness will be tested.
And you'll win in the end.
This other person wants someone different. They've probably
already seen you and complimented you on something. Talk about
feeling sexually charged and gorgeous--and now you've got more
than one person telling you that.
Some women might find that compliments from another woman are
the most pleasing, as we all seem to be so judgmental in public.
Better Communication
Not only do couples find it easier to talk to each other before
they even start swinging, but afterwards--the floodgates of
talking are opened.
When you can talk about sex, sex with another person with your
partner, or amongst your group, you can talk about anything.
It will make you more open in the outside world as well.
Granted, you may not talk about your swinging with others, but
you may find that you can be more self-assured and thus more
willing to start a conversation with someone that you normally
wouldn't.
Increased Sexual Drive
Of course, I haven't done any scientific research on this, but I
can tell you from my own experience that your sex drive goes
up--a lot.
It's kind of like the snowball effect. When you get exactly what
you want, you want it again, and again, and again. And that
doesn't mean that you want to be with the other couple all the
time, but sex becomes more fun, more open.
You and your partner never had it better.