Do Opposites Attract
So online dating is helping, you have now gone on a few dates.
You have met two great guys but they are quite different and you
like them both. One is more like you and one is more of an
opposite of you.
Should you date someone like you or not? This is a question that
almost any single person has asked themselves at one point or
another. This is mainly because at one time most of us have
dated someone that is like us and an opposite.
Studies have shown over and over that for a long term
relationship like marriage to be successful, a couple needs to
be similar. In the beginning of a relationship, opposite
qualities can be very attractive but later on they will be the
qualities that drive you crazy.
In the beginning you may fall in love with his drive and passion
to be successful. You want a family and to be together so in the
end it will drive you nuts that he works all the time.
If you find yourself attracted to someone because of qualities
that are different than yours, be careful. Almost every study
shows that it is very important to find a spouse who is most
like you. You may have a lot of fun in the beginning because he
or she is so cool and different, but if you want a happy
marriage, then choose lovers that are like you.
Look at your friends. Think about your friends over the years.
I'll bet that your best friends and the ones you got along with
the best were a lot like you. Or when you met a new friend and
you clicked right away they are probably a lot like you.
Stable and strong marriages almost always are what they are due
to two people who are very much alike.