STRONGER MARRIAGES AND COUPLES SWAPPING
If you're looking to talk someone into couples swapping with
this article, you can go ahead and forget about it. Weaker
relationships can not be helped by swinging, but solid
relationships can be made stronger.
If you're in a weaker relationship in which you fight or lack
communication skills, then you may not want to attempt couples
swapping just yet.
Work on your relationship first before adding something else to
the turbulent pot. Going to a marriage or couples counselor can
be the best way to get your communication back on track.
And as for the rest of you that are jumping into couples
swapping from a strong relationship platform, you're in luck.
When Strong Gets Stronger
When you're confidant about you relationship, you're ready for
whatever challenges lie ahead of you. It could be illness or the
loss of a loved one, but no matter what, you stand beside each
other and support them.
When you enter into the world of swinging, you will find that
your limits as to what is 'right' and 'wrong' may be tested. If
one of you was brought up in a religious setting, you may have
feelings of guilt.
Talk through these to see if they are founded in anything that
can be worked out.
Perhaps you are concerned that someone else in the swinging
relationship will look better or be more appealing than
you--talk about it.
The beauty of an already strong relationship is that you have a
track record for being honest and open, so there's no need to
feel that it will change when the conversation turns to swinging.
And if you can talk about having sex with someone else, then
whoever's turn it is to do the dishes becomes a lot less
difficult.
A Firm Commitment
A lot of beginning couples to swinging are concerned that their
commitment to each other will be altered with the addition of
another person. If anything, this commitment is strengthened by
the presence of someone else.
How so?
Not only are you arriving with your partner, having talked about
exploring swinging together, but you are also giving each other
permission to enjoy personal fantasies.
And at the end of the evening, you go home with each other
because you are a partnership, a committed partnership.
Knowing that your partner always comes back to you makes your
relationship stronger. There's no need to worry about them
running off with anyone because they've been given the chance,
but didn't take it.
Marriages that are already strong, but are looking for something
to spice up their sexual relations, are a great way to start
couples swinging. Not only is swinging exciting and arousing,
but it also uncovers any last dark corners of your relationship
and shows you how strong you really are.