Can a Marriage Become Stronger by Swinging?
While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily
basis, an outside observer of swinging might think that it helps
to cause marriage crises. This is certainly not the case.
Swinging, through numerous individual interviews and case
studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even
stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they
didn't want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience.
Their marriages may have been plenty strong going into the whole
adventure, but one or both of the partners just wanted a little
something different and new. They didn't love each other any
less, but rather, they wanted to add another dimension to their
relationship. And by making the decision together, they created
a way to communicate with each other more openly and honestly,
leading to overall better communication skills (outside sexual
matters).
Why swinging isn't cheating
One of the main concerns that couples struggle with is their
mindset of thinking that swinging is cheating on their partner
in some way. And this can be a deterrent for a while to act upon
this fantasy. What makes swinging different from cheating is
that the two of you have decided to share this experience
together. There's nothing secretive about being with this other
person. You know exactly what your partner is doing and you've
talked about why. You're hoping to share this new adventure with
your partner--together. And this is why being open will make
swinging even better for the both of you.
Saving a weak marriage
A counselor is the best way to save a weak marriage, not
swinging. If you are having insecurities about your
relationship, or just aren't communicating as well, swinging is
not a good fix. Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us
able to talk to each other and share with each other. And if
problems should come up in the swinging process, then the couple
must be able to work through them. And weak marriages are
usually a sign of not being able to talk through certain issues.
Don't complicate your relationship more. Work things out with
each other before you add swinging to the already volatile mix.
Swinging can provide just the 'kick' that your strong marriage
needs, but it will not solve problems that are already present.
If you're able to work through issues as a couple and just want
to experience more in the area of sex and fantasy, then swinging
could be the answer to your dreams.
And there are plenty of places to research swinging. Bookstores
so carry books on swinging and your local sex shops can direct
you to local connections. Online swinging dating sites and other
information sites can also answer any questions that you might
have.
Start the open and frank discussions now to enjoy swinging in
every way that you can. Doing the research together may also
lead to some fun on your own.