The First Date
Did you know 80% of potential relationships end after the first
date? So what must you do to avoid using the patterns which will
lead you to a certain failure?
The first date, especially after a long online dating period can
be a very nervous experience and high expectations of building a
relationship may put a lot of pressure on you. So what must you
do to ease the anxiety? What must you do to take your chances to
a second date?:
- Choose a place where you can be able to make an uninterrupted
conversation with your date. Never take your date to the movies
as you can't start to get to know your date, neither can he/she.
- Be at this place on time. Not earlier or later.
- Look your best, be presentable and comfortable. Wear clothes
that make you feel good. Buying new clothes is a good idea but
if you dont have the time, be sure that they are clean and tidy.
- Do not try to be more or different than yourself, always be
yourself.
- Make your date comfortable. Find something nice about your
date, make a compliment and leave it there. Do not
overcompliment.
- Be creative, funny and flirting. Putting a smile on your
dates' face may sweep away the nervous feelings you both use to
have.
- On your 1st date dont talk too much about yourself, take your
time and pay attention to your date. Remember you are being
tested by your date and you should also be testing your date.
- If you are unsure about yourself at that time our you feel
like your date is to good to be with you, you must clear of your
mind from those poisonous questions as it will make you more
nervous than you should be.
- Be honest about yourself. This is not a marketing game. Lying
or exagerrating about yourself could only destroy your chances
of a potential relationship.
- If you feel like everything is going well, ask for a second
date but do not wait for a confirmation right away or overly
repeat asking.
- At the end of your first date, always thank your date for the
nice time you had and if you feel like she or he is not ready
for the first kiss, save it for later.
The first date can be a nerve-racking and uneasy event for both
parts but always remember you're the prize to be won. If your
date does not value you or your time, it's her/his loss and you
must carry on with your life. There'll always be plenty of
chances for you to find the right person.