If You Want to be Discreet when Swinging
Of course, after you've tried a little swinging, you may want to
share your amazing experiences with everyone you know.
Unfortunately, not everyone will be as open as you. If you work
in a conservative environment, or just want to maintain a little
anonymity, then there are several ways to go about it.
If you're going to clubs...
One of the main reasons that a lot of beginning swingers try out
clubs is that there is a certain safety in numbers. If you're
there and they're there, then you both are embracing swinging as
a lifestyle or a fascination. And you are both in the same boat
of wanting to have a great experience (or experiences) without
feeling like your privacy has been invaded. Too much.
Another great aspect of a dark, smoky club is that many of the
times; names are not exchanged, so you can have a wonderful time
without even knowing who you were with. This might sound
impersonal, but it's a safety feature that's built in. You might
find that being anonymous is highly erotic and satisfying when
you're in the club situation. And you also won't worry about
running into anyone later with an awkward silence about who
knows who.
Maybe you'll see someone at the local grocery store. Just nod,
smile, and keep moving to the milk section. Keep your name for a
while until you feel that there's a special connection between
you and another couple or person. You want to take your time to
feel trust and security within your swinging group. And if you
find someone that you like?
Meeting with another couple in a public place at first will help
you determine if you're all ready to trust each other. Meet in a
non-sexual environment to see how you interact before you jump
into bed (or other places) with each other.
When you're online...
With swinging dating services now available at the touch of a
keyboard, you are launched into the faceless world of online
dating. But this can be a great start for a new swinger. Not
only can you choose whether or not to reveal your name and
picture, but you can also take your time in determining if a
person is right for you. You can ask questions over the secure
servers available, or email anonymously.
Using one of those free email accounts is best. Keep this
playtime separate. And if you're not sure about a person, it's a
lot easier to cut it off before you would ever meet. There are
also safety monitors on many of the swingers dating sites, so if
you feel that someone is being menacing or just plain
creepy--report them. You could be saving someone else some
trouble.
A final note...
Unfortunately, not everyone understands the joys of swinging, or
they only want to live out their fantasies, but dismiss yours.
Stalkers are a very real problem, so protecting your personal
information until you are absolutely sure about someone is
important.
Don't give out your name, where you work, where you live, or any
other identifiable information.